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Wanting to Help Others
Submitted by: Rhonda Dee Lillie
Oxnard, CaliforniaI'm 41 years old, a mother, a full time student, a part time employee. I'm divorced.
About 2 years before getting the book “The Secret” I was already learning about it, all on my own, and unintentionally. I returned to school (college) because I wanted to “help others”. Every day I lived and breathed the dream of helping people. When people asked me why I went back to school I would simply answer “Because I really want to help people.” I never defined how, or who I wanted to help, I just stated over and over again that one thought, and it was my main thought all of the time.
During this period I began to notice something. Every time I would go anywhere, no matter where it was, I was constantly being approached by people asking me for money. Homeless people especially. There could be a whole parking lot full of shoppers going to and from their cars and every single time the homeless people would approach me. One time a guy riding a bicycle passed by me and stopped to ask for money to buy some lunch, another time a man crossing the street asked me for 50 cents to make a phone call. Another time a man at the movies asked me to loan him money for a motel room, because it was cold, and one time a guy in the rain asked for money to get coffee. I started to get very annoyed as a single mom, who had limited income and full time student, taking a bus everywhere, I needed the money as badly as anyone did.
I started to realize something… the more I thought about helping others the more the homeless and people who needed money would come to me.
I realized I was somehow causing this to happen by my way of thinking, so I changed my thinking. I still say I want to help others but now I say specifically who and how, and under what circumstances. Now, I am attracting those exact types of people… It’s really weird for me… because I have not been approached by one homeless person asking for cash since. There was a time when it was daily, as I said, constantly.
So, it is true… when I thought “I want to help people”, the universe sent me people “to help”, and since I wasn’t specific, the universe sent me those that needed help most that I could quickly help right now with spare change in my pockets.