The Unexpected Relationship I Attracted.
To all of you wonderful people, I want to let you know how mindset is everything and it does take work but it works!
I first came across The Secret, introduced to me by a best friend at uni. I watched the movie and it was so enchanting but not everything was digested and internalized at that time.
Fast forward a year or so later. I was in a terrible relationship and felt like I kept attracting narcissistic, depressive people who were bringing me down. After being trapped in relationships where my partners were suicidal, alcoholic and full of insecurities, I began to ask myself what’s going on here? Why am I always stuck in unhealthy relationships?
I started reading, researching and understanding the law of attraction deeper, how it works in relationships and the importance of ‘You attract who you are.’ That made so much sense! All the low self-esteem I had, all the negative self-talk and my lack of self-worth only attracted more of it, attracting all the unhealthy partners I had.
In the process of going through a breakup, I revisited the law of attraction again and as much as I was tired of relationships and deciding to focus on myself, I looked up some law of attraction info about attracting the right relationship exercises. I didn’t give it too much thought, it was more of a therapeutic thing to help me reflect clearly what I want and to learn more about myself. Bottom line: I did it for myself, I wasn’t desperate!
So along the lines of some of the qualities I wanted in a partner I wrote down on paper:
-A positive outlook.
-Enjoys music and even better if plays guitar, I had a thing for it!
-Wants a family.
-Loves and respects me as I am.
-Has his own ambitions and goals.
I slipped this piece of paper away somewhere and forgot about it. Then I focused on bringing those qualities to myself by being more positive, respectful and loving of myself and I did a lot of inner work. I really didn’t care at that point if there was anyone for me, I guess it is this attitude of non-attachment that really made things flow for me.
A week after my break up, a friend that I met during my exchange year texted me and said he was in London for a festival, and asked if I wanted to meet. The fact was, we haven’t been in touch for nearly a year so it was quite out of the blue! I was heartbroken and not feeling my best but I knew I had to get out of the house and do something else. So I went along with a heavy heart but I ended up really enjoying our time, having a meal together and I just felt completely at ease with him. I even thought to myself if I were to spend more time with him, I think I would develop feelings for him.
So we kept in contact. I visited his town as I had a friend that happened to live near there and then we went to this fantastic music festival. Now, here we are, in a long-distance relationship that is going strong and I can say this is honestly the happiest I have been and I couldn’t have asked for anything more. And yes, he does play the guitar! But above all, he is the most uplifting and optimistic person to be with. I’m still in awe sometimes reading that little exercise that I did, and how everything came true as I had written down.
Thank you! Thank you, Universe for bringing me the right person. And it just shows that by letting go of your expectations, attachments, fears and anxieties, things come to you naturally. It definitely starts within ourselves, what we think, we attract. It is definitely true, what you believe, you attract, so fill it with positivity and love, starting with yourself!