From Rock Bottom To The Ends Of The Universe.
I started practicing The Secret after I saw it for the first time in a Doctor’s office. It seemed so corny and so cheesy. I remember thinking “If it was that easy, wouldn’t everyone do it?” Yet still, it stuck in my mind. I have struggled my whole life with money, with my weight, with my overall happiness in life. And the more I started to implement aspects of The Secret in my life, the more things started to change around me.
Long story short I was with a girl for 6 years who I was engaged to, we were 8 months away from being married and almost everything was paid for. She went on a business trip for work to Vegas (of all places) and came back a different person. Told me she didn’t love me anymore and kicked me out of the apartment. Needless to say I was shocked, stunned and hurt more than I had ever hurt in my life. Thankfully I had been practicing The Secret for a few years at that point. Now little did I know what I had started when I started practicing. Everything has changed in such a short time, it’s insane.
I went through crippling, suicidal depression, overwhelming anxiety, and overall anger at everything. I became a very different person for a little while after the split. But the small voice that started the first time I saw The Secret kept going in the back of my mind telling me “It will be okay, you are meant for more, you are worthy, you are going to change the world and you will be successful and happy.” This is the voice that will start when you truly give The Secret your all.
So this voice just kept going and going and I found myself still super unhappy with work and unable to let go of what happened in my past. Nothing was working. I took some time off work to seek some mental health. While I was off from work, that’s when that voice in my head became crystal clear. Almost like it was narrating my life to be. And I knew I could no longer stay in a job I was unhappy with. So I took all the positivity I could gather and started focusing on what I wanted and what I knew I was capable of. Needless to say, I put in my 2 weeks on blind faith in myself and the next day I got a call for a new job that I start in a few weeks.
The reason I’m sharing this story is I want everyone to know that the hardest thing to do is believe in yourself. Which is honestly the saddest statement I could make but it’s so true. We are our own worst critics and we let worldly things influence our decisions day in and day out. I believe it’s one of the most crippling things in the U.S. and some other parts of the world too. It’s such a toxic mindset and I’ve been watching a lot of motivational people. I’ve been studying successful people. I’ve been to countless seminars where the people on stage are so wealthy it’s sickening, and yet all of those “successful” people seem to have one thing in common. They did not care what anyone thought about them or how they would achieve their success. Now I define success way different than anyone else. I believe you can make your own success on your own terms. If I’m able to help others, spread love and positivity, influence those around me for the better and all the while being confident in who I am and who I want to be as a man, that’s my success. I’m telling you, I have tried many, many things in life, but nothing has ever affected me like giving my 100% focus and energy on The Secret.
I have been practicing this for 3 years. As time goes on and I become more tuned into the power I have over every circumstance in my life, the more my life reflects my dominant thoughts. So be happy now with what you’ve got. Dig deep to understand what talents you have that you can share with others that will make you happy. I fully believe that the biggest part of this transformation was me really trying to see every situation from all perspectives and have an incredibly open mind.
I have also lost nearly 70 pounds after changing my mindset about it as well. Instead of being unhappy with my life and trying to offset that with negative workouts where I was frustrated with my body image, I started feeling happier about my body at that time and knowing I would get to where I wanted eventually.
I went through a few relationships since the split with my ex. I finally found a woman who is everything I could ever want from my significant other. And I have helped her see things with a more wide point of view as opposed to the world’s narrow vision.