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Submitted by: Margie Agliozzo Chapman
Sea Girt, New JerseyI am a divorced mother of 3 teenage boys. I live at the Jersey Shore, and I am a nutritionist, nurse, exercise instructor, and a basic goofball that just loves to connect with people. Laughter is essential in my life, and so is emitting positivity. I am a firm believer in two things; Balance, and what you put out, you get back. I think timing is the third key to life, with balance and positivity being the other two.
I was in the process of a divorce in 2014, and was looking to move out of my marital home. It was a really tough time in my life. I was going through graduate school, and had 3 boys who are now 18, 16 and 14. I was working outside the home part time, as well. My ex husband didn’t want the divorce and tried to convince me to stay every day. I can’t even begin to tell you how stressed I was.
Being that my ex husband didn’t want the divorce, he refused to leave our marital home. Let me explain; my marital home was 5000 square feet, not including a finished basement. We had a pool with a waterfall, an outdoor bathroom and 6 bedrooms. People thought I was crazy to leave because of the financial security, but I just was dying a little bit each day being married to my husband. I am not going to get into our relationship, but let’s just say the dynamics of our relationship were not good.
So there I was, back in 2014, looking for a place to live. I had planned to find a townhouse nearby because I didn’t want to go far in an effort to make it easier on my boys. I thought “townhouse” because my cousin, sister and parents all suggested it would be easier for me to maintain. Snow removal would be taken care of as well as the lawn maintenance. Every day I would look at the MLS on the computer and pray that I would find something close to my current house.
In particular, there was a townhouse development that was literally a block away from my marital home that I was targeting because of the close proximity. I had learned that there was a townhouse development there about 2 years prior and so I targeted it. Unfortunately, units didn’t come up for sale often, and when they did, they were often two bedrooms.
I decided to set my intention. I wanted a four bedroom so there would be one for each of my boys. I wanted it to be an end unit townhouse in the neighborhood right near my marital home, and I wanted it for under $450,000.00, as that was my maximum budget. I focused on finding a place and every day for about 3 months I would look but nothing came up.
One day, a townhouse in the sister development about 2 miles from my house, came up. It was on the market for $450,000 and was beautiful, but it only had 3 bedrooms. Unfortunately, I got outbid and was extremely disappointed because it was a center hall colonial. That was something that I liked but had not been one of my requirements. When I got outbid, I told myself, “That’s the Universe not giving you that place because it’s not exactly what you wanted.”
I stayed patient. I continued focusing on finding the perfect place in the perfect location, which was the development a block away from my marital home. I didn’t know how the hell that would happen because I thought the townhouses were only 2 or 3 bedrooms, but I just felt that there was a reason that the 3 bedroom place fell through. I can’t explain that feeling, but it was like I knew. Little did I know, I was setting my intention as The Secret talks about, and was feeling the outcome, as well as focusing on just having what I wanted.
Then one day in July, I woke up at 7 am, and checked the MLS. When I saw a townhouse in Ashford Manor, the place I had been targeting, was new to the market, I thought there was a mistake. It was 4 bedrooms. I had never seen a 4 bedroom townhouse in that development. Upon further investigation, I learned it was an end unit, and was on the market for $415,000.
I was in that unit later that day, and my real estate agent said, “I didn’t even know there were four bedroom units here!”
Here I am, two years later, in that four bedroom end unit townhouse. Living two blocks from my old house which helped make my transition and move so much easier for my kids. I could not be happier here! I love my place because it is filled with my essence.
I am now using The Secret to manifest love in my life as well as a job, and I feel changes occurring. I can’t wait to see what happens next.