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Letting hurtful things slide off me
Submitted by: Lynda W
North Canterbury, New ZealandI am 44 years old, mother of 2 lovely daughters who I home educate. My former husband has turned into a monster who is trying to upset us as much as he can, but it isn't getting through as I am amazingly calm. I have had such a lot of luck in winning things recently too, so I am a very lucky woman who has found inner peace (well, not all the time, but I am working on it!)
Last year my husband of 18 years came home from a business trip and said he wasn’t happy with the marriage and he wanted to leave home for a couple of days, but that there was no one else involved with him, he just needed time to think.
As it unraveled there was someone else he was seeing – of course! – and then I found out about the other women he had been having affairs with over the years, including someone who I considered to be a close friend. Cliches all over the place here – I bet there are a lot of people this rings bells for!
I amazed myself at how I coped with his betrayal. I felt calm and confident that things would be OK, and had an inner feeling that things would be better if I rode out the initial storm. I was really surprised at my inner strength, I didn’t think I would cope so well. Of course there were times of utter despair as what I thought of as my certain future crumbled away, lots of crying and thinking, but that thinking was clearer and more comforting than I would have thought possible.
I had been given a copy of the Secret DVD by my massage therapist around 4 or 5 months before all this stuff came to a head. I had watched it and it resonated with me at the time – some of the things on the DVD really made sense to me. I had always said thank you to the universe when good things happened, and have always had a sense that there is some sort of law of attraction. Seeing the DVD really gelled for me, although at the time I didn’t realise how I would need to call on the tools I had been given!
Anyway, to cut a very long story short, I had the strength and belief that I could do things for myself. I would write myself a list of things to be thankful for each night when I went to bed, and a list of what I wanted to attract to me.
Although things are still all up in the air – I am not sure what I would like to do for a future career – I do know that I will be shown at the right time and it will be clear. The time has not been right for me so far, I have been concentrating on my lovely daughters and helping them come through all of this rather than looking further forward so far, but I feel the time is coming when my direction will be shown to me.
My former husband is doing all he can to try to make our lives miserable, but in doing that he is failing miserably! He is doing all sorts of sneaky, unpleasant things which reflect his state of mind, and I find I can shrug the things he does off as it reflects on him, not me. I have won a few things recently which is just lovely, and things are falling into place for me in surprising ways, yet there he is with everything he touches turning to custard. The law of attraction at work big time!
It all goes to show, what you put out there is what you receive back. I am lucky in so many ways and I am always sending thanks to the universe – my luck in life is increasing. I am a lucky woman!