Finding the expected when it’s unexpected
I was in a 5 year relationship that I knew from the beginning (deep down) was going nowhere. Although I wasn’t unhappy, I know I could have been much happier with someone who was a better fit for me. I finally had the courage to break it off and start over at 31. It wasn’t easy being out on the dating scene again. Although I didn’t miss the relationship I had been in, I desperately wanted to find that special someone that was out there for me. I had almost everything else I could want… a good job, great health, great friends and family, but yet I didn’t feel complete without a counterpart to love and be loved by.
After months of feeling sorry for myself, I watched The Secret with a friend. After the movie I wrote down, in detail, what I was looking for in a man. I told myself I was going to find it – I didn’t know how or when, but it would be soon. I then started telling myself that I would be married in 2009. I felt the worry just lift away. I didn’t have to be concerned about how to put myself out there, or when this was going to happen. I just knew that it WOULD happen, somehow.
Months later, I went on vacation with my family to Venice, Italy. It was my first time there, and the last thing on my mind was meeting someone… after all, that was not something I had to worry about anymore! Our last night in Venice, my brother and I were at a bar, and met up with a group of guys in the Canadian Army. One of them caught my eye and something about him just clicked with me. We exchanged email addresses. He had 3 months left on his tour in Afghanistan in which we conversed on email or instant messenger at least every other day and talked on the phone a few times. When his tour was over, we arranged to meet… and from there, it was easy sailing! It was like everything that followed was destined to happen. I found a great job 15 minutes from where he lived, I was able to get a work permit in Canada without a problem, and a month later after moving here, we found the perfect house to buy!
I look back and it was only a little over a year ago that I was single and wondering what was out there for me, and now I have everything I ever wanted! I found what I expected to find in the most unexpected place.