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When Life Hands You Lemons, Make Lemonade.
Submitted by: Stanley Dawejko
Philadelphia paMy name is Stanley Dawejko, I am 33 years of age. I am a web designer, marketer and self employed. I live in Philadelphia PA, I have lived here all my life.
I want to take you back eight months before my motherâs death. You see, my mother and father were splitting up at this time, and my father moved out of the house with another woman. My mother was going out all the time, so my brother, sister, and nephew were spending time over at my house. In November, 2007, my mother got evicted from her house. At that time, I had no other choice; I was not going to put my mother out on the streets, so I would take in my family to live with me to help my mother get back on her feet.
My mother, at the time, was seeing another guy, so she was staying with him off and on. My father was still living with the same woman at the time. But at the beginning of December, my father was not with the same woman. He moved in with a friend that lived not too far from my house. The middle of December, 2007, my father decided to try to take his life. I got a knock on the door by a lady that my father was staying with at the time, and she told me something had happened to my father; that he was going to be ok; and that he was in the hospital. I rushed up to the hospital to find out what had happened. The doctor said he slit his wrist and took a bottle of pills. He told me he just made it. If another five to ten minutes had passed without him being found, he would not have survived.
This brought my mother and father back together for a short time. My father moved in with me, as well as my mother and the rest of my family, for the holidays, with Christmas just being around the corner. I had my mortgage company working out of my house still. With the economy going down, and all this going on, it was just bad timing. I had enough money to help my family have a nice Christmas.
After Christmas came and went, New Yearâs Day came and went, and now it was the middle of January, 2008. My parents still were not looking for a new job. This started to frustrate me because I had just gotten an office around the corner from my house to expand to try to make more money. The end of January, my mother was going out all the time and now fighting with my father. I just could not see my mother like this any more. She was coming in high on drugs and hung over from the night before. I told the both of them that they needed to get a job and set an example for the kids because they had been through enough the past year. They both did not want to listen. They continued to ignore me and still went out. I told them if they did not like it they would have to leave. So instead of getting a job to help out, they both moved out and went their separate ways. My father moved back in with his friend, and my mother moved in with her father.
On February 24, 2008, I got a phone call from a friend of my mother stating that my mom was found on the bathroom floor at an after-hours night club, not breathing. She was rushed to the hospital. I gave a call to the hospital to find out she was pronounced dead due to taking drugs. It was a Sunday afternoon when I got the call. My whole family was on the couch watching TV at the time. If you could see the look on my familyâs face when I had to break the news.
My motherâs funeral was a lot harder than I expected. I had to meet and greet everyone at the door, and at the same time, make sure my family was doing OK. I was happy and sad at the same time. I was happy knowing my mother would no longer suffer from what she had put her life through, and sad to know my family would not be able to see my mother anymore and hear her voice ever again. I know my mother is with me. She is one of the reasons why I wanted to write this book. It is so crazy how one day the person you love is here, and the next, gone.
When this was all going on, I had an office with five employees. This, along with my mother passing and finding out my wife was pregnant, was a lot at one time to take in. Around April of 2008 is when the banking industry took a turn for the worst, forcing over 100 different banks to go under and making it very difficult to do loans. I started to fall behind on all my bills. I was just able to put food on the table and pay some bills. My house started to go into foreclosure, and my gas got shut off. I did not have a big family. I really did not have anyone to turn to to help out. After my motherâs death, I did not hear from anyone, which to me, I did not understand, because my family knew my situation. I just did not know how to handle it at the time. I took my family in and made sure I took care of them.
Towards the end of 2008, I was dead broke, not being able to pay any bills. I had just enough for food, forcing me to close up shop. As you can see, 2008 was a bad year for me, although I learned so much about life at the same time. It was preparing me for whatâs to come.
Now I had no money and went bankrupt. My life seemed like a ship that was sinking fast. I looked at the big picture from what was going on in my life. I told myself that I was going to do whatever it took to get my life back on track, and from that day on, I never looked back.
That same year, I watched The Secret.
Your movie inspired me to be a better me. I have been studying the law of attraction ever since; reading books, going to seminars, doing whatever it took to keep me involved. I was so interested in the law of attraction.
At that point, I was able to turn my feelings around and head another direction. This is when things started changing for the best. I kept my log every day. All that I was writing down was coming true. I was affirming the law of attraction in my life was working. This book was my blue print, so if something went wrong, I was able to go back to my book to see what it was to fix. At this point, I knew that if I was able to do this, then so could everyone else.
I found a new job at a big mortgage bank that did their own loans. They had over 100 different loan officers. I thought this place was booming compared to what was going on in the economy. I wanted to apply the law of attraction to attract more customers. Mind you, this was a non salary job. It was all commission-based. I needed to close loans in order to get paid. Within the two months of being there, I was able to make enough money to get my house out of foreclosure. I was averaging $7,000 a month at the speed I was going.
By the third month, I was doing so well at my new job I was able to make enough money to buy a car with cash. Things were really starting to turn around for me. After being at this job for six months, I got caught up on all my bills, and my family was doing great. My family seemed like they were able to smile again. Now, as far as I can remember, I was always using the law of attraction. Take, for example, at the age of twenty-four, I bought a house and my dream car, and with all of this, I started from nothing. After I bought my house, I fixed it up and had over $60,000 in equity, which is when I refinanced my house and took out some money to open my mortgage company. That was all done using the law of attraction. This showed me that whatever you put your mind to, you can conquer.
Now my whole life has changed thanks to you guys! I have done a complete 180. My life is filled with joy and happiness. I am living my dreams.
Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙂