Never Too Late For Love To Come Back
At the age of 20, 4 years ago, I met what I consider the love of my life.
At the time, being so young, I had no idea what was happening until it hit me. I was never the kind of girl that really had boyfriends. I had way too much fun with my friends and being young and silly to care for anything serious. I’m independent and couldn’t think of anything worse than having a boyfriend, just to have a boyfriend. It’s all or nothing.
I had never heard of The Secret at that age. However, looking back I followed the rules, visualized things without realizing (daydreaming), was being positive about everything and followed my gut feeling.
He came along, and he was amazing. Everything I wanted in a guy, that other guys were missing, he had. In my eyes he was beautiful and complete perfection.
We had the most intensely fun relationship, completely obsessed with each other in every sense of the word. Easily placed in a trance of our own bubble. We were best friends and lovers. People constantly would comment on how we were soul mates. We mirrored each other. We were perfect for a year.
What I did next was something I’ll never do again. I began to think everything was too good to be true and that something would probably start to go wrong. My biggest mistake.
Literally a year of a perfect relationship and everything turned upside down by negative thoughts and energies. We both started to have personal problems going on. I became co-dependent on him, becoming needy and sensitive, where he would want to be on his own, dealing with his issues. The more I worried everything was going wrong, the worse it became. We began to have the most awful arguments and our relationship was less than perfect.
So this went on for a whole year until I broke it off. It’s the worst feeling when you break up with some one that you’re still madly in love with. But you have to put your sanity first. It is so important. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much.
A year went by, where at times we both cracked, but the timing was all wrong. We were still both a bit broken and needed to fix ourselves. To distract myself and try to get over him I began to date someone else. He found out and resented me for it. He told me he no longer had any feelings for me. This cut like a knife as not a day went by where I didn’t wish I was with him. I started to become annoyed with life and really unhappy in my job.
So I came across The Secret and started to follow it.
My main focus was to get him back, and of course The Secret tells you that you cannot control someone or bring a person back into your life. But the exception of the rule is you can, if that person is on the same wave-length.
So I bought a blank note pad. At first I used it to vent all my feelings, but then I started to right down all the things I was grateful for. I read The Secret whenever I could, downloaded the App on my phone and watched the film. The thing I believe in the most, and I cannot stress this enough, is to write it all down. How you want it, when you want it and it will happen. For me, I felt like it was impossible to get him back. But I wrote down all the events of how we would bump into each other, when he would reach out to me and when he would realize, and it worked.
He came back.
He was away for 2 years but he tells me he loves me every day and we are easing into things to see where it goes. There is no such thing as too late. The most important thing is to love yourself and don’t become your worst enemy. You need to be your own best friend.
The main thing I focused on was getting him back, but I also got other things.
I got a new job and quit the one I hated. I went on amazing holidays and I am moving to the city with my best friend. It feels electric when I read back on the things I wished for and see how my story came to life.
My advice is this. When life is going beautifully, never feel like it is too good to be true and something will go wrong. If times are hard and you feel rough, write down exactly how you want it and dream about it. Do everything in your power to make everything good for you.
Do not worry what others think, it is NOT important. Completely focus on yourself and everything will be wonderful. Don’t force anything and go with the flow.
You can make life the most beautiful journey, ride it.