Soulmates… we were meant to be together
My story is about believing… having faith. My husband and I met in college and it was an instant attraction. However, because we were both very immature at that time, we broke up after 6 months. We still loved each other, but we kept fighting. We had no idea how to be happy together no matter how much we desired each other.
I tried to date other people, however I couldn’t get him off of my mind. He was so special and nobody could replace him, and for some reason I had faith that he would contact me.
At the end of the summer my parents family set up a blind date with a Korean doctor. It went really well. He was obviously good marriage material, and really liked me. However I couldn’t stop thinking of my ex, and got a bit depressed, thinking that “maybe it is the end. I might not be meant to be with him.” The very next day, my ex texted me out of the blue. I was very surprised. We exchanged texts for 3-4 days and I asked him to meet. He said his parents were with him helping him moving into his new apartment, but honestly he seemed to have cold feet. As much as I loved him and missed him, I was very scared too.
So I just decided to leave him alone until he figured out what he really wanted, believing that time would tell him that I was the one for him. I continued to date the doctor and had a lot of fun. But at the back of my mind, I always pictured me and my ex getting married. I visualized that I was holding his hands and we were in wedding gown and tuxedo. It felt miraculously good to me. I was very impatient when I was young, and it was very hard for me to wait for the time to come. However, whenever I felt like dialing his number, I kept telling myself that I should give him enough space.
After a while he called me to hang out, and from that point everything went very smooth. We noticed that we grew up separately, and now we could communicate better and understand each other like adults. It was like we were dating better and more mature versions of each other. To sum up, we got married in spring of that year.
What I really want to tell you is… If you love someone, never get obsessed with that person. Let them go and give them the space they want. If it’s meant to be, it should happen very naturally. Be patient – only the universe knows the perfect timing!!