The Secret To Love Is Love.
I had always believed in manifesting my own destiny. I have had many of my dreams come true, but never in the romance department until now. I moved out to the Midwest alone, a few years ago, for a career change and my long-term relationship ended. I was down about it, but focused on my work and soon I was dating again. I met someone who wanted to change me and when I refused to be changed, he broke my heart and I was left in pieces. Then I moved to a new city and everything was new and bright again. I unexpectedly met a younger man who caught my attention. He was charming, witty, smart and hard working. We had an instant connection. Then, I pursued him while he wasn’t ready to settle down but we started seeing each other. It became intense and I fell in love when he wasn’t sure of his feelings. Then we started arguing more and more and eventually, after a year, he broke up with me and claimed to have met a new woman. I was devastated. I didn’t think any other man could love me nor could I love any other man. I blamed myself and kept thinking that I had ruined things somehow.
I was angry at the Universe for abandoning me. Why, I thought, could he move on so quickly while I was left to suffer alone? But as much as I tried to give up on him, I couldn’t. I thought about him every day for 2 months after we ended things. But I didn’t call him. I just left him alone. I felt that there wasn’t anything I could do to fix things at the time. Eventually, I started reading The Magic because I had nothing else to hang my hope on. I wanted to fix myself first and foremost.
As I got more deeply into the practice of gratitude, I realized more and more that I had not been grateful. During my relationship, I had been afraid of him leaving and I demanded more from him than he could give me. I badmouthed him to my friends. I had been spiteful and petulant. I decided to change that all around and focus on the positives of the relationship. Every night before bed I would write that I was thankful for having him back in my life. Every morning before I went to work I would smile and kiss the empty space next to me and wish him a good day. I felt my heart lighten and my world brightened up after a few weeks of doing this. I was no longer afraid of losing him. I felt I always had him close by. I became happier in all facets of my life. I made new friends, I went outside, I exercised more, I ate healthier. I was a whole new person, someone more kinder to herself and a lot more thankful.
Then, I started to lose hope when he didn’t call. I thought, “What am I doing wrong?” He should call by now. But then I realized, “Why am I waiting around for him to call?” I called him when I felt strong and loved myself enough to know that if I never spoke to him again, then I would be just fine. He called back and we talked. It was a great phone call with a lot of laughter and genuine interest in each other’s lives. At the end of our call, he asked to see me. I was hesitant at first because I didn’t want to get hurt again, but we saw each other and it was as though we were seeing each other from fresh perspectives! He asked me out on a proper date and we started to see more and more of each other.
Now we are in a committed relationship and he is doting and loving. He kisses me every morning when we wake up and tells me he loves me. It was everything I had been living and imagining! Of course I knew it would come true because that is The Secret and The Magic. Love yourself first and foremost, hold gratitude in your heart and the rest will come just like that.