No Such Thing As A Hopeless Case
Let me start of by thanking everyone for posting their amazing stories on this board and also many thanks to the entire “The Secret” team. As my title says, I am really trying to inspire as many people that read my story and provide them with faith and this story is a bit long but I hope it can help.
I am 26 years old now, and met an amazing girl 3 years ago. We went to Uni together and started a serious relationship in 2010, life was good at the time but not necessarily great. We both finished Uni but were searching for jobs and struggled financially. Also, I lost a lot of friends who stopped talking to me because I started a relationship with her and thought that I had “sold-out” or “ditched” them to be with her as much as possible. And to some extent it is true but she was out of work and really dependent on me to forget about everyday struggles and I needed her as well.
A few months passed and I got a really good opportunity with a credit card company as a marketing analyst. I took the job and my entire team was awesome, my manager loved me and gave me flexible hours and my colleagues would always be down to go out and just have a good time. Even though I was doing well financially, ultimately I have always bonded my happiness with my girlfriend, that is how much I cared for her.
Just when things were looking good for me, my girlfriend started to become jealous and was not fond of the long hours I worked. She constantly complained to me about ignoring her and not paying attention to her as she was not used to someone not giving her attention. At one point she said this exact line “I am used to boys making me their entire life about me”. Not even the fact that I was helping my struggling family pay bills or saving up for an engagement ring would please her. Eventually, she ended the relationship and I was really hurt. I was not chronically depressed or anything but it was really tough getting out of bed for work and it was difficult to go to work or see other people and act like nothing happened. What was even worse was imagining her with somebody else or not knowing what she was up to. This was a particular fear of mine, because she played in co-ed volleyball and softball leagues with men, so she was always around guys.
I tried to get her back, I would call and text but to no avail. Then I started talking to one of my close friends and he told me to listen to “The Power” audio-book off iTunes. It was a true revelation, I finally understood the power of love, gratitude and the law of attraction. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I immediately stopped worrying so much and I decided to not have a particular person determine my happiness and my emotions!!. I consider myself as a fairly well-educated person but the teachings of Rhonda Byrne completely opened my eyes.
With the help of The Power and these great postings on the The Secret website, I started to change the way I felt. I was happy again and started appreciating what is there and not focusing on the things that weren’t there. I was constantly in a positive state and work was going well. After a few weeks, my ex-girlfriend started to text and call me back on her own. We were on good terms again and she wanted to see me and go out for ice cream or take her to the movies but I was not ready to do that. After all this is the same woman, who broke up with me and ignored me for 3 months and didn’t want to spend Christmas with me. I always came up with an excuse to not see her, don’t get me wrong I deeply cared for her but I was just learning the secrets of this universe and growing as a human. I really wanted to make giving love and gratitude a daily habit and knew that if I went back into this relationship that it would be hard to practice the teachings as my mind would be too occupied.
So I told her that I will take her out eventually and that I am really just too busy. In the meantime, I was manifesting a lot of great life experiences and really was just improving myself as a human being. Almost a month passes by and my ex-girlfriend sends me an email and tells me that she started to see someone else (he played volleyball with her and was 10 years older than us and owned a few restaurants). I was devastated again, but this time around I remembered something Esther Hicks said in her teachings “If you knew the potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different”. It could have been a ploy to get my attention or she could have really fell for him but what I realized was that if she didn’t appreciate me at my worst, than maybe she doesn’t deserve me at my best.
I was angry at her at first but then realized that she did me the biggest favor in the entire world, this tough experience led me to “The Secret”, it led me to understand the greater things in life. If this was me a year ago, I don’t know what I would have done, probably end up on some depression pills or in therapy but now I am so grateful for everything that happened to me over the past year. I have manifested peace in my life after years of headaches and financial worries, I still have great friends and received a promotion at work. These books turned a hopeless situation into a life changing truth for me, I am so grateful for it.