I once was in a very unhealthy relationship with the father of my two youngest children. He had no drive or ambition for what once was his family. All his energy was put into himself mainly. The more I got to know him daily, the more I was turned off. I was doing everything possible to make ends meet while he was too busy being jealous, accusing me of things I hadn’t done, fearing what I could do and being insecure and negative. Ironically, he was the one to show me The Secret. It took me 2 years to finally realize he was stopping me from being happy. All of his negativity was a dark cloud that hovered over me daily making me feel just as negative as him.

One morning I woke up and said, “Now is my time to live.” I told him that I no longer wanted to be in a relationship with him. It was a battle to get him to leave but what made him realize I meant what I said, was my actions, my attitude and me being strong and optimistic. The woman that once held her head down in shame began to walk tall and prideful. He saw that I no longer wanted to join in his sorrows, I wanted to live life happily.

Thanks to The Secret my life turned around within months of the break up. I lost over 20 pounds, became confident, got a great job close by home, and moved into a beautiful apartment with my family. I realized that it was all about the thoughts you process daily, and your attitude. You can control your destiny. Put your mind to it and you will succeed.