A super huge thank you to Rhonda and The Secret team, and to all of you who write & read these stories. I can wholeheartedly say that without you, I would not have made it through the last year! I am sprinkling magic gratitude dust all over each and every one of you.

My world came crashing down last October when the love of my life said he needed to be alone out of the blue. Suddenly, he didn’t want to get married or have kids at all. We’d been off and on for five years, but this last relationship we’d had was the most beautiful experience of my life and I was gutted to my core. Never mind that I’d been negative for months, secretly afraid that he’d never truly commit to me (ask and you shall receive).

I did everything you’re not supposed to do – cried, begged, threw things, lost it. Nothing moved him.

A dark, dark time followed. There was a deep, dark hole in my chest that never seemed to abate. I thought about dying ALL the time. I’d had bad breakups before, but this one nearly killed me. I lost 25 pounds and had no energy for anything.

I stumbled upon the Secret Stories. I’d read and watched The Secret several years before but naturally had forgotten how to create a beautiful reality. These stories completely uplifted me and gave me hope.

I’d love to tell you he morphed back overnight. But he sure didn’t. Three months passed by without any talking at all, really.

I read on the Powerful Intentions forum that sometimes the best way to attract your ex back is to clearly state your intention, let it go, and then…date someone else. Naturally, I was so in love with my ex that this felt counterintuitive to me. But when nothing else worked, my best friend convinced me to join a dating site and so I did.

All of the guys on the site made me uncomfortable except for this one, sweet guy. I decided to give him a chance and we went on a wonderful date. Unfortunately, I was still in a bad place and spent most of the date missing my ex and wanting to cry. I wrote the new guy off, though I knew he was wonderful.

To my surprise, my ex contacted me the next day. I’m here to tell you that what they say is true – the SECOND you begin the process of moving on and letting go, your ex will ACUTELY feel it.

I had a coffee date with my ex and was convinced I was going to get the big speech and hear everything I wanted to. Except…that didn’t happen. My ex told me at coffee that he wanted me sexually, but couldn’t offer me the relationship I wanted. This crushed me, but I can see now that this was a product of all of my sadness and negative beliefs about myself. I was also still totally desperate, which is a major love-killer. I really understood that the only way I could restore our love was to restore myself.

So that’s what I did. I started saying yes to friends’ invitations, I meditated every day, I started going to regular yoga. I did my best to forget all about him.

I made a vision board that had love and hearts all over it, photos of traveling and people doing yoga. I even had public speaking on there, since I’ve lived through some pretty harrowing stuff and felt at a core level that I needed to be speaking about it.

This vision board worked SO quickly, I can’t even explain it. By total chance, I was selected by my company to speak in front of 300 people about my journey less than a month after making the vision board. Random sums of money began to pop up in my life. And as for the travel bit, I’ll get to that in just a minute.

In the meantime, the guy I’d had one date with sweetly contacted me every once in a while. He works in the music industry, and had extra tickets to my favorite band. I agreed to go to the concert with him, and…

…BAM! Total fireworks. I’d attracted the very opposite of my ex. This guy was super driven, sure of what he wanted, totally into me, passionate, and the physical – let’s just say I was able to let go with him in a way I’d never had before, and it was completely electric.

Not twelve hours after I’d been with this man did my ex text me and say “Is everything okay with you? I’ve been having weird feelings and can’t get you off my mind.”

Dating someone else DOES work, as long as you’re doing it from a place of sincerity and not as an empty measure to attract back your ex.

Since then, my ex has been completely insistent. He suddenly was saying everything I’d ever wanted to hear – that he wants to get married, that I’m the only one for him, that he dreams of our children. He even bought us a trip to Mexico for the summer (travel, there you go)! He now texts me everyday about how much he loves me.

Recently, his grandmother suddenly passed away, and it really woke him up. He asked if I would see him, and when I did, he pulled me so tightly to him and held me in his arms and said, “I don’t want us to be apart. Ever. I don’t want to die alone without you. I don’t want to LIVE without you. I’m such an idiot. Please forgive me. I’ll do ANYTHING.”

This is why they say be careful what you wish for – often, when you let go of your ex and move on in a positive way, you’ll attract even bigger things. It’s also true what many others have said here – by the time you attract your ex back, you may be so happy in your new situation that you won’t even want him/her anymore.

My ex coming back to me was an IMPOSSIBLE situation. Out of no way, a way was made. If I can manifest this, you can truly manifest anything. This man wanted absolutely ZERO to do with me. Everyone told me to forget about him.

If you want your ex back, the VERY best thing you can do is to LET IT GO. If I had let my ex go in the beginning, I wouldn’t have spent five months in total freaking misery.

If you want to keep someone in your life, you MUST make yourself totally happy. Never look to them to do it. Move your body in a way that gets your endorphins going, spend quiet time by yourself raising your vibration, read empowering books, get plenty of sleep, make vision boards, go somewhere you get inspired (it could be church, or the beach, or by watching a movie that really moves you), spend time with friends and family who believe in the best you and raise your vibration.

Free yourself from your mental chains and be willing to let everything you’ve built burn to the ground. You’ll be really surprised at what can rise out of nothing.