I have been wanting to write here for the longest time, and finally, I can. I’ve had some desires and dreams in the works, and I finally attracted the man of my dreams. The funny thing is, I attracted him ages ago. I just didn’t know it.

Here’s a little background first: After leaving my abusive first husband, my feelings were raw and hurt. My self-esteem and my joy were at an all-time low. I didn’t believe that I would ever find someone who would love me and my child from my first marriage. I felt like used goods, and every man I tried to date after that treated me as such.

During this time, my mother introduced me to The Secret. I watched it and felt a new hope. At first, I did a test and said I would like to attract a free lunch. Well, ever since then, for the last five years, every so often I get free lunches out of the blue! I only ever asked for this once. Too funny.

Still, even though I had gotten proof that it worked on something that seemed small in my eyes, I wasn’t seeing the big things happen. This made me start to lose faith in what Rhonda was talking about, and for a while, I put it away and stopped practicing ask, believe, and receive.

Then I met a guy who I thought might be the one to stay. He was nerdy, sweet, and looked just like my favorite celebrity crush. I started to realize then that I had, through the law of attraction, brought this man into my life. However, due to my negative feelings about men, relationships, and self-worth, he ended up taking me for granted, barely paying any attention to my child, and dumped me on a holiday.

I never heard from him again. Then I started to do some inner reflection. While he was in the wrong for how he treated me, it was me that needed to change. I forgave him, and I forgave myself. I forgave myself for the choices that I had made that made me think I was unworthy of love, and I began to do daily affirmations and tell myself all the things I loved about myself. I got back to loving me.

In turn, I became a better mother, a better daughter, and a better friend. It was at this time of growth that I got back in touch with an old acquaintance. When I first met him, I was not at all attracted to him in a romantic way. I was young and could not see past the fact that he was not my type. Haha! How silly of me. This time, however, he and I really hit it off, and before I knew it, we were in a relationship.

He is great with my family, my child adores him, and he makes me fall more and more in love with him every day. My advice is to love yourself first. You cannot give love if you do not have it within you. You have to be overflowing with abundant love. The practices from The Secret that I used to attract this relationship were using the Vision Board, the Gratitude Rock, making a list of the things I wanted in a partner, and a list of what I loved about myself.

May joy be with you. Thank you so much, Rhonda Byrne!