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Submitted by: Jonida Djebli
Albania,TiranaHey, I am Jonida from Albania, 24 years old.
Hey everyone,
I was a pessimistic person. Then my sister told me about The Secret. I saw The Secret movie and I also read The Secret, The Magic and The Power books by Rhonda. They really changed my perspective and my thinking.
English is not my native language so I hope whoever is reading this understands me.
I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, and we were in long distance relationship. The first year was so intense, and strong, and after that, eventually, things started to become more difficult. It is especially hard when you are in a long distance relationship. It was a time when I was feeling so anxious. I had negative thoughts, and I had fights all the time with my boyfriend.
It was such a hard year for me. I had problems with my health and needed surgery. I got Covid, I was losing my self-confidence, and I had problems with my relationship. My boyfriend started to text me only once every 2 or 3 days. He seemed so cold and was not giving me any attention. I was angry at him all the time. I used to text him long paragraphs complaining about everything.
Then he ghosted me! I texted him after 8 or 10 days asking if everything was alright and he did not even respond. So automatically I thought, okay he left me. I told myself that I had to be strong and that everything will be as God wants. I had days when I had negative thoughts, or cried for hours. And that was okay, we are humans with feelings and emotions. So I cried as much as I wanted.
After that, I put faith in God and I knew that he would give me what I wanted. Allah says in the Quran: If you are thankful, I will surely increase you. Surah Ibrahim 14:7. So I started to practice gratitude. I started to pray, and talk with God every day. I started to think positively and I felt sure that he would text me one day. I kept telling myself that if he is the one, our love will find the way. So I kept doing SABR, which means having patience, and let it go.
Letting it go is the secret because if he is meant for me then love will find a way. There is an Arabic proverb that says something like, “What is meant for you, will reach you even if it is beneath two mountains. What isn’t meant for you, won’t reach you even if it is between your two lips.” Also, in the book “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho, Fatima says, “If I am really a part of your dream, you’ll come back one day.” So I tried to forget about him, to let him go, and I kept telling myself that I was beautiful, healthy, and confident.
After almost 3 months, boom! He texted me on WhatsApp saying that he was so sorry for everything and that he did not deserve me. We are talking again now but I will send you my second story soon.
Thank you so very much to Rhonda and God bless you all.