It’s Not Him, It’s You!
Thank you Rhonda and team. You have changed my life forever!
About 3 months ago, my life had collapsed around me. I was in a very serious relationship with a man and it was beautiful. We had spoken about having a future together and it was everything I’d wished for. But as they say, some things can be too good to be true.
After a while we hit a really bad patch where things started going from bad to worse. We used to fight all day and everyday and what was supposed to be the best thing in our lives turned out to be the source of all the negative energy. But being the optimist that I am, I was hopeful things would get better. I would rather fight with him every day than not talk at all. I thought that was ‘love’.
But eventually he got really upset and broke up with me. That’s when the 3 months I mentioned at the beginning started. I’ll spare you those depressing details, all I can say is I was affected mentally, emotionally and physically.
One fine morning, I hit rock bottom. I couldn’t take it anymore. I couldn’t continue living like this. This pain either had to take me somewhere or kill me. Something had to change!
I sat down and really thought about it. I looked at the relationship from a third person’s perspective and realized that the break up, as painful as it seemed, was in fact a huge wake up call! All the reasons why he had fallen in love with me were not even there anymore. I had taken him for granted and I would vent out all my other frustrations to him without realizing that he’s human too, and all that negativity really got to him after a while. If I were to deal with a cranky person like me, I would have liked to be left alone too! As
I realized this, I had tears in my eyes. I had finally realized the power of The Secret. I had read it and watched the movie before but experiencing it was unbelievable. The moment I stopped playing the blame game, I felt so powerful and responsible for my own happiness. I regret the precious time I wasted moping and grieving but I felt immense hope!
It has been 2 weeks since this magical enlightenment and I’m doing wonderful! All the energy I invested in overthinking and the time I wasted literally waiting for him to come back I directed towards and for myself. I spend a good amount of time working on myself; I wear make up and dress up every day time I go out. I meet people that make me feel good about myself. I have stopped talking about my bad experience and my faith in God has reached another level.
Now for the best part. While I wasted so much time and effort in attracting him back, now that I’m back to being the best version of myself, I don’t even miss him as much I used to. I always thought I needed him but now I realized that I only wanted him. If he’s the one for me, well and good. He still really means a lot to me. But after the ‘wake up call’, I feel so liberated, I’d love life to surprise me with someone new or maybe just a new him!
This story is for every person like me out there who has experienced a bad relationship. It might seem convenient to blame someone else for what you are going through. Yes, probably they are the reason why you are in your current situation. But how you react to it is what you can control. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it is that simple! You are responsible for all the good in your life. Similarly, take responsibility for the bad, too.
And here’s the silver lining, you have the power to change it the moment you decide to! This is coming from someone who went through hell but is lounging at the airport right now waiting for her friends and is about to travel Europe! From depression to travel, trust me now?