Thanks to “The Secret”” with all my heart for changing my life.
Being an overweight girl with low self esteem I had gotten into the habit of always seeing the worst in me and everyone around me. No compliment was true, no success big enough.
6 months ago I was a single, overweight 27 year old whose socially and financially affluent parents were on the verge of giving up on ever finding a good match for me by arranged marriage. Even men that were not very attractive, or financially unsound had met me and rejected me because of my weight. This difficult and depressing time led me to “The Secret”, and my life hasn’t been the same.
I started seeing all the positives in me. My beautiful features, my glowing skin, even my long thin fingers. I appreciated everything that was good about me and started writing it down. I started telling myself that I will be married before I turn 28 in August. I listed everything that I wanted in my husband. Just because I was overweight did not mean that I deserved someone who I am not attracted to. I wanted him to be tall. I wanted him to be good looking. I wanted the world because I deserved it. My parents were at a point where they would have easily settled for anyone who just said yes, since cousins much younger than me were already married, but I did not want that. I wanted someone who was just as good as I am. I truly believed that all that I want is on its way, It’s coming…
Nov 2012, my parents wanted me to meet a guy. 6’4 in height. Highly educated, from an affluent family, financially sound, an athlete. A dream groom by any Indian family standard. I had my doubts that he would agree, we spoke for an hour or so, it was late so had dinner later. All the time getting thoughts that all this is going to be a waste of my time and energy. He is too good for me. Then I stopped and told myself, “Darling you deserve the best”. 2 weeks later our families met.
January 2013, we were engaged. July 2013 is our wedding date. 1 month short of my 28th birthday. He checks out on everything I wanted in my husband and better. He even agreed to shift base to my city because he can, and because I in our first meeting I had told him that I did not want to move away. This does NOT happen in arranged marriage situations, it is always the bride who moves to the groom’s city!
He is everything I had listed and more. I am Happy, my family is happy!
I see an amazing future. A child before my 30th birthday, lots of love and laughs, a lot more to be thankful for and a lot more to write about!