It’s All About Timing.
When I first discovered The Secret a couple of years ago, I was smitten by the endless possibilities it offered me. I put it to the test by visualizing exact scores that I wished to achieve in college. Surprisingly, they turned out to be accurate to the last decimal point! However, I didn’t really think bigger and restricted The Secret to these small achievements.
Being a sister to two amazing brothers, I always wanted a man who had a sister because I felt he would be more caring, just like my brothers were. And being a huge animal lover, I expected the same from him. Over time, I lost track of The Secret and encountered a few heart breaks along the way. I made it a point to wait till I met someone who ticked all items on my checklist of the perfect guy for me. Along came someone who I thought matched ‘close’ enough. And I say close enough, because there was a voice in the back of my head telling me that something was not right. However, he turned on his charms and never gave up till I agreed to go out with him. There were warning signs everywhere but I still believed I could be happy with him.
A year later, the relationship was strained and I found myself going back to my checklist wondering if he was ever right for me. He did have a sister I had become close to and he was a dog lover but he was emotionally unavailable even during my darkest times. However, I had committed to this relationship and was willing to do whatever it took to make it work. The relationship went long distance for the next year during which talks of marriage came up. And finally I thought, the bad times were coming to an end. I just didn’t realize then how wrong or how right I was!
After having talks about an engagement with my family, and my family going into full swing with the preparations, he backed out. I was devastated, obviously. I felt more betrayed than I had ever felt in my whole life especially since my family was affected as well. My parents turned out to be my biggest strength during the next month as I sunk into an endless, tearful depression. A month of tears later, I started noticing how worried my parents were. I was to leave home and fly abroad in a few days time and they were afraid to let me go alone. I spoke to a couple of mutual friends that we had, and they all said they were so relieved it didn’t work out and let me know the truth, that he had been planning to back out for ages, since he didn’t think he could convince his parents. And that’s when it hit me, that these tears were not affecting him. It was only affecting me and my family. It was time to get my life back on track.
I spent the next few days watching The Secret and making amends to the first checklist that I had made knowing that there was still hope for me. I went out shopping with mom and did everything I could to cheer myself up. I started a detox process which involved throwing out or deleting anything that reminded me of him. My parents noticed that I was better and finally felt confident enough to let me fly back and complete my degree.
A month later, while I was fully immersed in studies and outdoor activities and friends, I met someone. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I heard a voice telling me that this is it. I didn’t really pay attention to it and took my time getting to know him. Weeks and months flew past and I was in complete awe. He not only ticked every single detailed item on my checklist, but also went beyond my expectations. He understood me better than I understood myself. He saw something in me that I hadn’t seen in myself and even though he was so much greater than me in every way, he always made me feel like I was the bigger one.
He had two sisters who I got along with absolutely wonderfully and a family who was beyond accepting. Not a day goes by where he doesn’t cease to amaze me. He is brilliant, caring, understanding, loving and in all ways, a complete gentleman, a man I can respect and love. He doesn’t have to reassure me that he loves me. It is evident in the way he talks, the way he behaves and in all the little things he does for me. This feeling, this sense of security, was something I had never felt before and I love every moment of it.
My family was easily smitten by him and he went out of his way to win them all over, including my dog. We are engaged, set to get married this year. Every day, I am so grateful to have met him. Everything happened at exactly the right time that allowed us to meet. The past doesn’t even matter because that is what has led me here. My life has become far more colorful now. My career has taken off brilliantly and I have more and more reasons every single day to be forever grateful!