I have known about The Secret for some years now, watched the film and read the books. It was such a concept I had trouble understanding it. I would start with small things like a type of food I wanted to eat or a certain word I wanted to hear but anything bigger than that I couldn’t focus on for very long without losing faith.

Almost a month ago the man I love and have been dating for 5 years ended things with me, saying he was “confused and had a lot on his mind”. After crying like a child and shamelessly pleading, he agreed to at least be friends.

I was confused and didn’t know what to do as so much of my time and effort had gone into the relationship. I eagerly searched for a little hope and started reading all of your amazing success stories on here. I came across so many of them that repeatedly said the trick was to LET GO. After asking and believing you had to let go and forget about it. What a concept. So I began.

That first week I began stating everything I was grateful for in my life and everything good I saw in that man and how happy he made me feel. I would envision us together on Valentine’s day which was 3 weeks away. I would listen to his voicemails where he says “I love you” and would imagine it was really him beside me at night telling me he loves me. I ended up believing with all my soul and then I would fall asleep. That happened for about a week.

As this was happening, my boyfriend and I kept in touch and as promised we would hang out as friends. And I would focus on how grateful I was to spend time with him.
I focused on my health and started exercising and writing again and my self esteem shot up. I started thinking about how maybe it was a good thing we broke up and maybe it was a new beginning for me.

I decided that if we were meant to be, then we would be, if not, then I would still be okay. That was the moment I really let go.

Things continued the same, no miracles happened, we still hang out as friends but it wasn’t painful anymore because I was happy. I was happy with myself and with my life. I was in such a grateful state that I felt I glowed.

Weeks later, two days before Valentine’s day, my boyfriend came over and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me, to make things work and be together.

We have dinner plans for Valentine’s and I am still so grateful and happy. I am glad all this happened because I believe now, and I know I can change my life and direct it any way I choose.

I am so grateful for him and his love. Always have faith.