My mum passed away and I have a sister who is disabled. Mum looked after all 4 of us as a single parent, including a child with special needs. We were always secondary and we saw mum always put my sister first. That made me learn to put everyone else first, ahead of myself.

I had to grow up early and when mum passed away, I was that little boy who needed his mum again. I guess this has played such a huge part in my being in failed relationships, as I put them before myself. I would do everything for them and forget about myself.

I lost myself for a long time and today I had a massive awakening! She had gone through so much yet I never heard my mum say, “Why me?” Instead, she just carried on and told God that if she needed to carry more, to just give it to her. Mum was on dialysis for 8 years and still never complained. Even looking after my sister with special needs, she still never said anything, she would help everyone around her. Her spirit and unselfishness are something I can never aspire to. I had been so angry since her passing and I finally have let that go and let her rest in God’s kingdom. Now, I guess it is my time to let go, forgive myself, forgive others who have hurt me and us, and to let the light and love in me shine and vibrate in the world.

I finally realized that I am love! I am amazing and I am who I am. Having self worth and knowing who you are will set you free from all the negativity. And above all, it gives you the freedom to just be who you really are!

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Thank you for The Secret!