He Made It Real
I have been wanting a change for a really long time.
About 2 and a half years ago, I started a relationship that was great at first but ended up being really emotionally abusive. We were very, very different people, and it just wasn’t going to work out. Last February, I decided to break up with him and try to move towards being happier and finding what I really wanted. There was still love between us though, and we ended up going back and forth between dating and not dating. He was my security blanket. The “just friends” thing didn’t work and anytime I would try to stop talking to him for good, I would get weak and feel like I needed him and it would start the mess all over again.
It just kept getting worse and worse, though! So about a week ago, I just didn’t reply to a text he sent me. I said a quick goodbye yesterday after proving to myself that I really could go without talking to him, and things are already drastically changing. I realize that by going back to him and also keeping reminders of him everywhere, I wasn’t leaving room in my life for anything new. So, I don’t wear the ring he got me anymore. I took the pictures of us down. I started focusing on my friends and also doing what I wanted and making myself happy.
After all of these efforts, the transformation was magical.
I realized that I have enough on my own, with or without a guy. I realized that I love my life and my friends! Most importantly, I realized that I really was over my ex and didn’t need him in my life if he wasn’t making it better.
I’m also a hopeless romantic, so I have always wanted an amazing relationship and am just always wanting to find someone perfect for me. I remembered at the beginning of this semester noticing how cute a guy was in one of my classes. We started working together on a group project and I could tell there was flirting and some attraction there, but I was skeptical of anything more happening with us. Also, all of my actions, like talking to my ex all the time, were not allowing anything new to happen. After I stopped talking to my ex, I started realizing how much I like this other guy and how he has so many of the qualities I’ve been after for quite some time.
I was finally ready for something new and had room in my life for it, so I asked the Universe if the new guy I liked could text me around 4:00 one day as we had a test coming up, and I was hoping he would ask to study together or something. Our conversations have always been rooted in stuff that happens in our class and what we are studying, so I figured it would be best to expect him to text me about school. However, he didn’t text me at that time or on that night at all.
I didn’t stress about him not texting me though, and just asked the Universe if he could the next night. I let go of my worry and almost forgot I had asked and had a good night even if he didn’t text me that night either.
The next day, though, he did text me! And it wasn’t even about school at all, but him complimenting me on my outfit!
This definitely happened because I asked the Universe for it. When I stopped worrying about him not texting me and just had faith that he soon would, he did.
And it was about something way more personal than just school! In just the past couple of weeks I got the courage to remove what was holding me back, asked the Universe for what I wanted, got serious about it, and believed that it would happen most importantly.
I KNOW that there are amazing things headed my way with this new guy, and that this will finally be my dream come true.
It’s no coincidence at all that things started happening and the Universe started to changing to allow what I wanted to happen once I removed the barriers. Thank you, Universe!