I’m not going to make this a super long story, mostly because I don’t want to add lot of identifying information as I’m a private person. I have struggled with The Secret for years. I just couldn’t seem to make it work for me and I often gave into my negative thoughts because it was just easier.

Last year I became involved with a man I’d known when I was a child and we embarked on a long-distance relationship. He was going through some hardships and I became hurt and offended at everything that he did. Needless to say, we broke up. I fell down a hole of bitterness and depression. It got very dark for me. He was all I thought about. Although we did get back in contact a month later, he made it clear that he did not want me nor a relationship.

Starting March 1st I made the decision that it was way too exhausting being this depressed, sad, angry and hurt. So I forgave him for everything that he’d done and apologized to him for everything that I had done. I decided to just be happy and positive. I even challenged myself on various days to not have one single negative thought.

The result was that I soon became happier and deflected off the negativity others tried to push onto me. My work got better because I was happier when I spoke to people; my friendships improved because all of a sudden I was a person people wanted to be around. During this time, I also realized that I needed to stop talking negatively about my love to other people. I didn’t want to be that person who cuts down her partner, I wanted to be his peace, his biggest fan. I prayed that if I was allowed to have another chance with him, I would do just that.

It only took a few days for him to start calling me and hinting that he’d want to retry being in a relationship with me. Could I really be rewarded so quickly for my attitude change? Was this possible? YES!!!! In exactly 13 days from when I began my positive outlook he came back to me.

Our relationship is much different now because I am completely understanding and patient with him. Whenever I don’t hear from him, I don’t lash out at him like I used to. I just assume that something came up or he was busy, etc. In the old days I’d have to prod an apology out of him for not calling me. These days, I don’t have to say a word nor do I expect an apology and I get one instantly.

It’s hard to be positive all of the time, but once you “get” it, you get it and can be rewarded almost instantly.