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Submitted by: T.B
AustraliaCaring, down to earth person, with a loving heart. Love animals
I was with my husband for 14 years. We were so happy and did everything together. We were husband and wife and we were best mates. He followed “The Secret” and he was truly grateful for the wonderful life he was living. Life was amazing and we had just finished renovating our home. I remember him putting his arm around me and saying with a big smile “Look at what we’ve achieved, are you happy Bubba?”
The next day we played in a tennis tournament and he won in his division. I was so proud of him. We went to bed early that night as we decided to get up early the next day to go out for a celebration lunch. We woke early and checked some stuff online then my husband decided to go into the laundry to finish a small bit of painting on the ceiling. I heard him make a weird noise, only to find him slumped over the small step ladder. Suddenly my world went into a spin. My husband passed away that morning from an Aortic Dissection. It is an uncommon and extremely rare thing and there are absolutely no warning signs.
I found myself in a world of grief, not knowing how to cope with the thoughts I was experiencing. I decided to read that book “The Secret” which was on my husband’s bedside table. My friend brought me a gratitude diary as well and I decided to put it into practice. Every day I got myself in a routine of going to the beach and walking along the coast. Then at the end of every day, the last thing I would do was to write in my gratitude book. I wrote all the things that made me grateful that happened in that day. I did this religiously for one year. I then stopped writing in it and I realised I stopped because I did not need to write in it anymore. I was grateful and at a place of acceptance with the loss of my beautiful husband. That gratitude diary helped me at a time I was in a very sad place, to realise that every day, one thing, even just the simplest of things, were there to be thankful for. It gave me something to look forward to the next day.
It is coming up 6 years now since I lost my husband and that diary remains on the bedside table and I now use it when I’m feeling sad. I open a random page and read it. It reminds me of where I was in my thoughts back then to where I am now and how far I’ve come.
So you see, I used “The Secret” for a different reason and it truly has helped and still helps me on my saddest days. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!