Believe Wholeheartedly And Let Go Completely.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you Rhonda for this amazing series of books and hoping my story gives the readers inspiration and answers.
I would like to start by thanking my best friend for introducing me to The Secret. I first watched this movie for fun with my best friend when I was in college. My mom later gifted me the book a few months later for my graduation. I watched this movie and read the book very casually.
I was a very negative person all my life. I always felt I never got anything I prayed or wished for and that was what always happened. Things started changing after I moved to the US for grad school, which happened due to my failure in my other goal. I had a friend in grad school who believed in The Secret and made me understand that it was working for me because I believed that I never got anything I wanted. I then decided to read The Secret, The Power, and The Magic, and I started applying them in my life.
By practicing The Secret I received a full, 100% scholarship in my grad school and later, secured a good job. Being an immigrant in the US, I was blessed with a visa even before I asked for it. All these incidents were not less than miracles for me. I was always blessed with a decent career and finances.
I had achieved a career and a life that many girls could only dream of by wishing for them once and then never thinking about them again but I was very unlucky in terms of finding love. I did get into relationships but things would soon start falling apart. I would then get anxious and try to meditate and apply everything I knew about The Secret to make my relationship work again. I did everything from keeping one side of the bed empty to leaving space in the closet and setting up 2 plates for dinner. I kept doing this for years but nothing changed.
Then I forgot about my other wishes because I was too busy focusing on finding love. I used to force myself to feel like I had a companion and that was not a good feeling. After my second failed relationship, I broke down completely and gave up on finding love and getting married. I was in such a bad place because of my anxiety and breakup that I almost lost my job. I first saved my job and then started spending time with myself. I then made this huge list of characteristics I want in my partner and forgot about it completely. I started working on my hobbies, prioritized myself over everything else. I kept myself so busy that I forgot about my wishlist.
Seven months later I casually got back on matrimonial and dating sites with no expectations. I then met this amazing person on one of the sites and we spoke all night. We continued talking for hours every night for a couple of weeks and decided to meet. After I met him I realized he had 97% of the qualities I listed in my wishlist. He didn’t believe me until I showed him the file and the last edited date was 6 months before I met him. We instantly clicked and everything fell into place.
We got married within 2 years. My wedding was a miracle because I dreamt of a wedding that didn’t follow my family customs and my dream came true because my husband belonged to the traditions I always dreamt of. We have been together for 3 years now and he still does all those small, cute, romantic things I had always wanted in my relationship.
After meeting my husband I realized why my previous relationships didn’t work. I was attracting the wrong men in my life because I never treated myself the way I want others to treat me. Secondly, I was putting so much pressure on myself by meditating and trying really hard to believe in the Universe but not by letting go. In this process, I was giving out a lot of negative energy instead of positive energy.
Letting go is the most important and extremely difficult step in the whole process. You will know you have completely detached yourself from your wish when you are totally at peace with your feelings. I would come here to get inspiration whenever I felt low or had doubts, but I always tried to keep myself in a good mood. I changed my playlist to play peppy and dance numbers instead of sad or emotional songs. I watched feel-good movies or shows whenever I started getting a bad feeling.
I also tried to use The Secret to get my exes back and I know a lot of you come here to do the same. Trust me, don’t do that. Wish for a spouse or partner who treats you with love and respect and not for someone who left you. If the person who left you is the right person, the Universe will bring them back to you but if they are not right for you the Universe will attract you to the person who you deserve and are ready to accept.
By believing in the Universe, letting go, and being grateful, I am not only blessed with a wonderful husband but also with an amazing job in FANG which came to me through LinkedIn. I cracked the interview by simply giving my best and forgetting the rest.
Believe in yourself and believe in the Universe. Let it go and let the Universe do its magic!