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Attracting My Soul Mate.
Submitted by: Tamara
South AfricaStudent Psychologist in Africa.
I have always been the nurturer and caregiver in my family. Friends and family could always call on me to be there for them in time of need and guide them in whatever way they needed. This then lead into my personal relationships.
Not all, but most of my relationships centered around me saving or being there for my partners. The worst one ever was my ex boyfriend whom I attracted when I was already in not a great place in my life. In the beginning he was charming, charismatic and would try everything he could to swoop me off my feet. After a few short months however, he began to comment on my appearance, my dress, my weight, my face etc., as well as how I was in his social circles. Whenever I would comment to him that he had offended me or that his comments would be hurtful, he would dismiss them and say I was so fragile. It soon became apparent that he was very narcissistic. We fought and broke up hundreds of times, I cannot keep count. He never could hear me or adapt to my life, it was always the other way around. He would comment and talk to me about other women and that’s when I started to detach.
I looked around me and realized that I deserved so, so much better and I too deserved to be adored and to be taken care of! We broke up and for a couple of weeks I looked back on what we could have done differently but I eventually just let go of the whole mess. I realised that I attracted him in the first place because I did not believe that there was any better out there. I fundamentally believed that I would always have to take care of and nurture my partners and receive little in return.
When I let go of that belief and would not settle for anything less than I deserved, I attracted my life partner.
He came into my life around 3-4 months after the break up and was absolutely everything I have ever looked for in a partner. He is kind, generous, strong, gorgeous and so intelligent and humble! I couldn’t believe my luck and how God and the Universe had this plan for me all along! We have such a nurturing and fun relationship and we complement and understand each other so much! I have never found such deep love before!
We have been dating for a year and a half and 2 months ago he proposed to me!
My dream has come true thanks to believing that a man like this exists!