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19 Years Of Failure to Success
Submitted by: Brad
United States28 year old writer, poet, stone mason, gardener, salesman, traveler, coin collector, juggler, vegetarian. Formerly a lonely hopeless romantic who was never grateful for any of the above.
I first noticed women when I was very young, 7 years old. By age 9 I was chasing after girls, with no luck, complaining that I “can’t get a girlfriend.” Little did I know that those words would haunt me for the next 19 years.
I spent most of my teenage years chasing girls in school, with no success. From age 18 to 28, I spent nearly all of my time, effort, and energy trying to meet someone. As a decent looking, fit, tall, and intelligent person, I was able to attract many potential mates over the years, but things always ended poorly when I professed my undying love for them after 2-6 weeks of dating. I’d then chase after them, trying to show them how much I care, and they’d ignore me. This spawned constant thoughts of: “Something must be wrong with me.” “Why can’t I find a decent woman?” “Maybe some people aren’t meant to find love.” “Romantic men always lose.” Things got so bad, I often suffered from periods of dark depression, and I usually neglected every other aspect of my life. For years.
I discovered the Law of Attraction in 2005. Nothing changed. I discovered The Secret in 2011. I loved the film and believed every word. Nothing changed. After making the same mistakes with yet another woman I dated earlier this year that I really liked, she dumped me also.
Then I gave up. I gave up hope for anything and everything. I decided to really let go and stop fighting for what I want in life, and just take whatever happens.
The next day, I found The Magic while aimlessly meandering around the bookstore. I sat down in the store and read most of the book.
Then everything changed.
For as long as I could remember, I had been depressed, desperate, lonely, sad, and ungrateful most of the time. But suddenly everything became so clear. I saw I had created my life down to the smallest detail. I decided to recreate it. I started seeing all the “painful” things that had happened to me as invaluable learning experiences. I started seeing my bad luck as good luck. I started feeling gratitude for everything from the times my heart was broken, to whatever money was in my wallet at the end of the day. I started imagining myself with my arm around a kind, beautiful woman who was smiling at me.
Finally seeing that “Life isn’t happening TO me. Life is RESPONDING to me.”
I changed my entire frame of mind in less than a week.
Within ONE WEEK, I met the woman who is now my girlfriend. Though we’ve been dating only 4 months, that’s my record. What I was unable to find in 19 years, I manifested in one week when I finally understood The Secret.
And the key was gratitude.
Since meeting my girlfriend, I’ve manifested more money at my regular job, a part-time job, a “gig” on the side that pays cash, and I manifested my unique item, a red frog….in one day.
Thank you.