Good Morning everyone,

My name is Emma Faith, a 25 year old, ambitious lady from Kenya, Africa. First and foremost, I am super grateful to The Secret team and for everyone who submits their stories here. I mean I wouldn’t be this happy if it weren’t for all of you, so thank you.

I am literally shaking while I am typing because I am still in shock about how much I have been blessed. My story will be long and raw, however, I honestly need to give you my truth regarding my struggles with believing in the law of attraction.

I was introduced to The Secret in 2014 when I was still in University studying Law. To be honest, I used it to attract jobs and money but I had my struggles with attracting love. I came out from very toxic relationships to wit, physically, and mentally abusive relationships.

At the beginning of this year, I decided to finally write down my list of what I wanted in my partner. I did this after I saw a Youtube video of Bob Proctor on how to attract your soulmate. I wrote down all the qualities I desired. However, to be honest, I kept changing the qualities and then adding more. Thank God it can sometimes take time to attract.

I first found a guy I liked and due to Covid 19, we could not meet. However, I felt in my heart that I was more interested in him than he was interested in me. He would barely communicate and further, he always created excuses when I wanted to meet him after the borders were open. Therefore I ended things with him.

Interestingly, instead of being sad after months of trying to make him happy, I decided to sit down and journal. I asked myself, “What have I learned from this experience? What positive attributes did I learn from him? What kind of a man do I want?” I journaled consistently about how I felt and the insecurities I was facing. There were days I would cry when addressing my issues and there were days I was very proud of myself for being happy.

Suddenly I got the answers I needed. I realized that I always expected men to make me happy. I always searched for love from others, instead of loving myself. I realized I barely had good attributes myself. This was such a wake up call! Therefore, I decided that I would take the time to know and love myself. I wrote down 5 things that I loved about myself every day. There were days I had a meeting with myself on my bed and asked myself questions. I also talked to myself. I would even applaud myself when I finished work at the office or dressed nicely. I developed self-love. I really loved myself, you guys!

Then one evening I was watching a movie and my intuition told me to join Tinder. I had no idea where such an idea came from but I joined and posted two official photos. Of course, Tinder is crazy and men kept texting me like crazy. I loved the idea of it but it was overwhelming because sometimes it was just too much! Especially when I was trying to attend Court via zoom!

Then one day when I was on my way to the office, my heart felt really warm. I had said that I really would desire a light-skinned guy who is bearded and has an amazing personality. Further, I wanted a man who was older than me. That same day a guy texted me on Tinder and my goodness, I loved his photos! I was so excited but I moved on with my life.

Then a few days later on a Friday evening, he texted me and I gave him my phone number. He called and asked me if we could meet that evening. I had plans with my friends but there was no way I would have turned him down. He came and picked me up and we went out for dinner and drinks.

Long story short, we are head over heels for each other. To make it more shocking, he went to the same school as my previous boss’s fiancée. The fiancée assured me that he was a good Christian guy and he is, trust me. We are getting to know each other and I love the process. And the other day I just realized that he posses all of the qualities on the list I had written at the beginning of this year. I can’t stop smiling thinking about this.

So lessons learned were to first, be very specific with what qualities you are looking for.

Secondly, believe and let go.

Thirdly, enjoy the process. You may find a man or lady who you like and things don’t work out. It is okay. Ask yourself what you have learned and what do you want. Always be a student of life. Never regret, just be a student and learn.

Fourthly, please love yourself. Enjoy your own company. There are days it will be tough but allow yourself to cry and afterward, get up and go back to find things you love.

Fifth, trust and do not give up.

This is how I did it. I know it may not be the best way to go about it but this is what made me attract him. I love you all so much. Be blessed and I wish you all the best.