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About Finding Love.
Submitted by: Joana K
EuropeI am a dreamer and a firm believer in the power of love. I like to come up with my own little quotes about life. One of my favorite ones is: “We live on a ball floating into the unknown, but we don’t believe in miracles.” - Joana K
In 2013 I was living alone and I was lonely. I also hated my job. I was good at it but the environment was toxic. The good things in my life were the facts that I was still young at 27, I was healthy, and I had a few friends. Still, I was very lonely and scared about how far in time this loneliness might go.
My grandma was always sending me all kinds of books for self-help, which I didn’t always read. I remember that I never believed in the power of imagination. One day I saw a quote somewhere saying, “How can you reach out to anything if you cannot see it first?” It sounded so logical to me. Then I remembered what my grandma told me about that last book she sent me, “I know you don’t always read the books I send you, but this one is something else, this is something great!” She said no more. Just this one sentence that she said casually, just as if she was saying, “How are you?”
I was very sad at that time and I certainly did not feel like reading because I couldn’t focus on a task. The book she was talking about was The Secret. I had heard of it because it was a ‘thing’ for a while, but I never went for anything trendy like movies, books, or whatever. Anyway, I opened it and I remember that I liked the colorful pages. It was relaxing for my eyes to read it and it was nice for my hands to hold it. It really was so comfortable to hold.
I felt a connection with the author because it was the first time in my life when someone said, or actually wrote ‘to me’ that “Lack does not exist”. All the people in my life have always spoken about the lack of money, the lack of decent jobs, the lack of good partners, or whatever. Nobody had ever told me that “You can have it all, it is there for you.” This was a completely new thing in my life! This thought. The rest is history.
I started writing and writing and writing all the things I wanted. Mostly about being surrounded by love and finding my dream partner. I was broke, too, but love was my first priority. I was reading the lists each day. It was very difficult for me to start feeling it or to start believing it in my heart. I knew it was possible to be achieved, but I also felt that it was kind of a difficult task to believe with all my heart, especially when I was a mess at that time.
For example, I would remember that my colleagues were awful to me. During a day at work as I was sitting next to them, I was writing secretly in my book, “I am surrounded with love.” It was kind of ridiculous. It was a hard thought to believe under those circumstances.
At that time I was mostly dreaming and writing about my dream partner. All the things I wanted in a relationship, I was writing it down and repeating it over and over. One day I said to my mother, “Mum, don’t worry, I will find my dream partner. I know it now!” I went out that same day and he was waiting for me in a car for shared traveling. The very same day! I was so convinced it was true and that helped me a lot. I think that my heart finally believed it. After all these months of writing and reading and writing and reading, the time was finally right and I was ready.
Now in 2021, we are happily married. I often tell him something like, “Thanks to Rhonda Byrne, you have found me.” He still thinks I am joking and he always replies back, “No, I found you because you needed a ride and I found you because of our mutual friends who gave you my number.” We like to joke about this.
Now I am so very grateful for him and for our children and for our love. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you so much! Now, let’s move to the next wish!
Joana K