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Freeing Myself From An Abusive Relationship.
Submitted by: Shruti
INDIAI am a 20 something actor. Trying to be more inspired, excited and grateful every day. Loving life!
I was in a 2 year long relationship with a man who was very loving and caring but suspicious. Everything was great at the start until I started to notice how he would have a problem with me talking to other men or hanging out with other men. Eventually when it got worse, every time I stepped out of the house he would react aggressively. I had tried to break the relationship many times but he would pressure me into staying.
At the start I was pretty depressed and I thought I had made a terrible mistake and I would never be able to get rid of this situation. There were other health and professional goals that I was trying to achieve and this relationship issue was coming in the way of it all.
Then I decided to make my primary aim clear. Freedom! Every time I would have a negative thought in my mind about the relationship or him I would pivot it by simply chanting a few times ‘Freedom’. I did this in my mind and I would also visualize myself as a bird flying freely in the air. This made me calm down and would distract from the negative thoughts.
I knew I had to stay positive most of the time amidst his constant nagging and doubting. I decided I would do any 3 random practices from The Magic every day, whenever I had the time. I did it especially right after we had had a fight and I needed to change my mood. I also had to imagine my days without him. For that, every night I would make a list of 30 blessings that I was grateful for in the day, excluding the time I had spend with him. Every time I caught myself thinking negatively about him I would stop and say to myself ‘He is a good man’.
Within a month I had magically summoned enough courage in myself, and support from family and friends to break away from the relationship.
Now, almost a year down the line, I am grateful every moment for the wonderful life I am living. If there is anyone out there facing similar issues with relationships I’d say the key is to not get caught up by the chaos of your current situation and most importantly, try not to think negatively about the opposite person. It might not be easy but it is definitely possible to release abusive relationships. And it is so worth it!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!