In the spring of 1995 after 22 years of marriage and 26 years together my mariage was coming apart. I was always a family man and loved family life. In the summer of 1987 my oldest boy was born, and in the spring of 1991 my second son was born, and life could not get any better. I loved being a father and getting involved in bringing up my sons and I am still involved with my boys today. My mariage by and large was happy.

Fast forward to 2005 and my marriage was falling apart, my wife was breaking up our marriage and nothing I could do could save it. It takes two to save a marriage and I was the only one who wanted to save it. My ex said ‘she loved me, but had fallen out of love with me or maybe there were other reasons, who ever really knows. So, as you can imagine my emotions were all over the place and I was in a very dark place, with no light at all shining through.

On Dec 2006 I moved back into our family home with my two boys as my ex had bought a small flat, the lonliness coming back to a place where there was once laughter and happiness was very sad indeed. Would this sadness I felt ever lift I thought to myself, and how would I start on the road to my recovery? The emotional pain I was feeling was overwhelming, and the pain in my heart sore.

I learned many years ago that sharing with people you trust has a healing power, so I shared like I had never shared in my life. My family and friends were a Godsend and helped me through my darkest days. I bought self help books to help move forward. A good friend who had been through much the same emotional turmoil as myself bought me a book called ”The Secret”. Could this book give me something more to help me on the road to emotional happiness once again and free me of the pain that was inside of me?

I have always been an extrovert, and an outgoing positive, glass half full type of guy, so without realizing it I was half way there, I just needed something more to take me the other half. Through The Secret I came to understand what I have right now is because of the ”law of attraction”, I attracted everything to me.

Since the break up of my marriage I wanted to find my soul mate, I have always been a dreamer and a believer that nothing is out of reach to me if I really thought about it and believed it. How long it would take I did not know, but I knew it would happen.

Well, I met ”my soul mate” and we have been seeing each other for 8 months now, I know she is my soul mate because of the ”deep feeling” we have for each other. I watched ”love stories” on the TV and thought to myself, ”this is the love I want and why cant I have that kind of love”. People give up to easily and listen to negative people who will tell them you cant have that kind of love, well not this guy, I knew I could and would have that kind of love. I attracted my ”soul mate” to me because I thought about it and beleived that I would find her’ AND I DID.

I think of all the things I HAVE in my life, not the things I dont have in my life, for I have so much to be grateful for, I truly do. I still practice what The Secret teaches and I know I will have what I want, to be finacially secure, to have that nice house, to drive the car I always wanted, I truly beleive I will have these things at some point in my life. I have written a letter about all the things I am grateful for and what I would like from life through The Secret and sealed it and put it away and to open it when the time is right. It may take weeks, months or even years to have what I have written in my ”secret letter”, but I BELEIVE.

John Mc Donald