Lost Relationship Gained A Friend!
Indulging in a relationship is certainly the most beautiful thing that I have ever known. I used to be very happy whenever I was informed about any of my friend’s commitments, but at the same time I never wanted to be in one, for fear of spoiling that relationship. And to my amazement my fear came true when I got committed.
I liked a guy since the 8th standard but got the strength to say so when I was in 11th standard. It was at that time when I came to know that he liked me from 9th standard. So we got committed and spent great time with each other.
Everything was wonderful for two years, but since the time we parted when our schooling was over, situations changed drastically. Regular fights, heated arguments, misunderstandings found their place between us. Whenever we decided to settle the disputes, again we ended up creating another misunderstanding.
Today I know the reason. It was because I had been least thankful for what I already had. I lived in constant fear of losing him. I was over jealous, possessive, obsessed. Whenever things settled between us I wanted more. More communication, more meetings, but never thanked for what I already had. Our relationship thus worsened day by day as it didn’t got enough love, gratitude and faith from my side.
He drew himself back from this relationship silently. He didn’t break up but started considering himself single. I still tried to revive our relationship back, but I couldn’t because every time I tried to do that, I ended up with all those negative feelings.
I had already seen The Secret movie but it didn’t help me because I had forgotten it.
Then I came across The Power. I read it, and it taught me what love is in reality and how powerful, positive and essential it is to keep us intact and to hold us here on this planet. The book helped me to revive the teachings of The Secret.
I started by counting all those lovable moments which we spent together and thanked him in my thoughts for those moments. One year passed and everything started settling but he was adamant over his decision of staying away from relationship. This made me upset. I knew the relationship exists no more but I wasn’t able to leave that relationship. I wasn’t able to decide what I should do. So I decided not to make any decisions about this matter and just left it for the universe to decide. Whenever my mind went into that matter again I brought it back by convincing it that the universe is unfailing and it has the shortest and easiest path to mend all issues, and one day I really got the courage to come out of that relationship. It was instinctive.
So I decided to breakup and he even agreed. It was on a happy note and we decided to remain friends. We are still in contact but without confrontations. Our past relationship was beautiful but the present relationship has no comparison with the past one, because it has abundant faith, love and most importantly the feeling of gratitude.