The Secret And The Magic Stopped Abusive
My life with The Secret and The Magic begins in high school.
On the outside, I had it all going for me. I had good grades, I played water polo and I swam for my high school, I had amazing friends, and it seemed like I had my life together. Beneath the make up and the carefully planned outfits, I was super insecure and I had a lot of drama going on at home.
My aunt had been in my life for as long as I could remember. At first, it was great because she was my favorite auntie and I loved being around her. That quickly changed. She started to be abusive, controlling, and possessive. I have 2 siblings, 1 older sister and 1 younger sister and I just remember getting in “trouble” all the time and getting lectured and beat by my aunt. She always told us that we would never amount to anything in life, that no one would ever love us, and we were pathetic, worthless pieces of skin.
My mother didn’t do anything and my dad claims that he didn’t “know”. In his defense, it never happened when he was home, she never dared to lay a hand on us when my father was around. For years and years we lived our lives like that. She controlled everything, what we wore, the people we were friends with, who we talked to, how we thought, and the way that we acted.
It was awful, I remember being angry at God. I didn’t understand what I did to deserve this. I wasn’t a bad kid and we never did anything that bad to deserve a beating, especially from her, and it happened almost every day. There were times we couldn’t go to school because we had bruises.
We missed out on so much. We couldn’t date, we couldn’t hang out with our friends, we couldn’t even see my father’s side of the family.
Eventually, my parents divorced. At first, I was so sad and depressed, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. After my parents divorce in 2008, the beatings continued and they got worse. It wasn’t until I found The Secret and The Magic that I found it within myself to end it.
At first, I used The Secret and The Magic to try and fix my aunt, I tried to show her how much I loved her and how much I cared about her because I know that deep, deep down she loved and cared for us, too. It worked for a while but as hard as I tried, I couldn’t change her. Instead, I focused on changing the situation. I was sick of the life that I was living and I knew that I needed to protect not only myself, but my sisters and my mother.
It was time for the madness to stop.
Eventually, I gathered all my strength and courage and stood up to her. Albeit, it wasn’t in a very respectful way but I managed to end it. I told her that I wouldn’t let her hurt my family anymore and I know that violence isn’t the answer. But I let her know that if she ever tried to hit me or my sisters or my mother again, I would fight back and it wouldn’t be very pretty.
I used The Secret and The Magic to “fix” myself.
I started to be grateful for every part of my body and every non physical attribute that made up me. After that moment, everything changed. It was hard and it didn’t turn into rainbows and unicorns over night but we survived. That day showed me that I can accomplish anything that I set my mind to and I can help others around me.
I used the power of positive thinking and the Universe helped me to accomplish everything that I have accomplished today. I was captain of the water polo team and the swim team at my high school, editor in chief of the yearbook, and I was blessed enough to go on a trip to France the summer before my freshman year in college. I now attend San Diego State University, it was my first choice of the California State colleges. My life has turned around for the better and I know that the Universe and God have my best interest in mind.
I am so grateful for every experience I’ve had and every single person I have come in contact with. At the end of the day, I still love my aunt. I just couldn’t let her hurt us anymore. I’m grateful for her because she taught me how to be strong, how to speak my mind and be a proud, independent woman. I know that everything she did was out of some twisted type of love.
Now, I am using The Secret and The Magic to rebuild relationships that were destroyed. I started with my mother and my father and now I am starting on my aunt. No relationship is easy, especially with family. If you’re being abused you need to either find the strength within yourself to end it, or seek help from others around you. If it gets to the point where you need to get the police or some type of government officials involved, then do it. It’s going to be hard and scary but no one deserves to be belittled, yelled at, hit or abused in anyway.
No one can compromise your self esteem or self confidence unless you let them take it away from you.