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The power of positive thinking
Submitted by: Samantha
CanadaI am a college student, and a few months before summer vacation I met the man of my dreams. We were both totally crazy about each other and it seemed like the perfect relationship. I was a little upset when summer vacation began, cause it meant we wouldn’t be able to see each other as much as we did while we were at school. We did the best we could, spending a night together every week or two. But we were able to talk to each other over msn and the phone and really made it work. We fell in love that summer.
The last week before school began I started to get worried and have doubts about if he still loved me, but was able to push them away again. The first day back at school we went out to dinner and had a really fantastic time and he said he loved me. A week later we got together and he was having a bad day and for some reason I felt like it was my fault and that he didnt want to be with me anymore. I was so upset because I was worried that the love of my life was going to break up with me. We barely spoke the rest of the night and hardly at all the next day. I asked him what was wrong, what happened the night before, and he didnt answer. He basically stopped talking to me for a while.
When we did get to talk, over msn, we agreed that we needed to discuss things face to face. We had made plans 3 times that week to get together and each time I was worried that he wasnt going to make it and every night right before we were going to get together hed phone and say he couldnt make it. It was 2 weeks before we actually got to talk. But every night I told myself that we werent going to break up, this isnt the end. He loves me and were going be ok.
When we finally had our face to face conversation he said that he didnt want to break up and that he didnt know why he had doubts about his feelings for me. And wanted to take a break. Every night I thought about us getting back together and working things out. About a month later we decided to try things again. It was a bit rocky in the beginning. I didnt know if us taking it slow and getting back together was helping. So one day I asked him and he said he didnt know.
It was after that moment that I decided that I wanted things to work out, and slowly it got better. A month later, on a Wednesday, he said something one night that really upset me, and I told him about it along with how I felt about him and how I wanted things to go back to they way the were in the summer. He said that he just didnt feel the same way. We decided that we needed to talk again. I was worried because that Saturday we were supposed to go to his Christmas party.
I had never really thought about The Secret. My bother gave me the DVD and I had stuck it in my drawer and forgot about it. It wasnt until the next day, when I was talking to my brother, that he said watch The Secret, it will help. So I put in the DVD and 20 minutes into it I felt 100% better. I stopped crying and started to think about what I wanted, write down what I wanted, and what I was grateful for. Fixing our relationship and being happy and getting back together was the only thing I thought about and focused on. I wrote down how I wanted the night of the Christmas party to go and focused on that as well.
When Saturday night came, I went to his house and he was so happy to see me. We went to his Christmas party and had the greatest time. He said that he was sorry for the way he acted Wednesday night and that he loved me still and that he hated that he didnt get to see me as much as he wanted to. And needless to say instead of spending one night together we got 3 nights together.
I realised after watching The Secret that in the beginning, because I couldnt stop thinking about how he didnt love me, he started to loose his feelings for me. And he didnt know why, because I was just thinking about it. There was no reason why. But because I was thinking about how I wanted us to get back together, we did get back together. When we got back together I didnt know how he felt, so he couldnt tell if getting back together was working. And after watching The Secret I focused on what I wanted, and I not only got it I got better. It was the best weekend of my life.
Now all I do is focus on what I want. I have a book where I write down everything I want out of our relationship, being really positive of course. And so far its working fantastically. I completely believe in The Secret, and since seeing the DVD have passed it on to all my friends.