The Secret Verses Doctors.
Thank you to everyone who shared their stories in “How The Secret Changed My Life”.
I had read The Secret, twice, around 2009 and 2010 and like many other people, I realised I had kind of always been using it. At 25 years old I had travelled the world, lived in Spain, America and Australia. I had bought my own home and I had a gorgeous partner.
Fast forward to 2016/17. Although I’m still with my gorgeous partner and I’m still travelling as much as I like and living in Asia, which we both love, something huge was missing.
We both wanted children more than anything. However, being a gay couple the obvious is always going to be a problem. Conceiving and not to mention the fact that we were living in a Muslim country and it is illegal for a women to have artificial insemination without the consent of her husband. It is also illegal to ship donor sperm into this country unless you can prove your husband has fertility issues!!
Nevertheless, we found a wonderful doctor on our 3rd attempt who was willing to help us. And it just so happened that the clinic had 3 vials of sperm available. The donor type they had in storage was exactly what we had always dreamed of in a donor. I was using The Secret subconsciously. I never worried about these things, I always knew they would fall into place like they just had.
On my first attempt at IUI, the scans showed very slow growing follicles and a very thick uterine lining, which I’m told, is a bad thing. So we decided to cancel that month and wait for the next month as they say every cycle is different. However, on the next cycle my uterine lining grew so fast and thick that my doctor sent me to have a D&C . That really worried us and I was really getting frustrated with all the negative talk from the doctors. I began dreading every appointment and it felt like there was a huge dark cloud over the whole experience. On the cycle after my D&C things got even worse and I didn’t ovulate that month. We were crushed; they were suggesting IVF to us, which was disappointing to us as we never imagined it would go that far.
We decided to go on holiday to take our minds off things. In the airport I went to the newsagents to buy a magazine for the flight. I couldn’t find the magazine section anywhere. Then all of a sudden, I was face to face with a shelf full of “The Secret” books; The Magic, The Power and How The Secret Changed My Life. I instantly knew I was meant to read these books and I was angry with myself for not practising The Secret as much as I used to. It was like I had been forgetting The Secret slowly but surely.
I read the books in a matter of days and started practising instantly, using some of the techniques used by others in the book. When I was drinking out of a coconut I imagined I was drinking healthy uterine juice. We made a vision board with pictures of babies and a due date on it. We made room in our wardrobe and bought baby clothes to put in it. We talked about the baby non-stop and made the baby part of our future plans. We rented a bigger apartment and I started buying my clothes a little bigger.
On my next cycle, I had the same problem again. The Doctor wasn’t happy but I didn’t care. I was so positive that the Universe would give us our baby, my partner and I were even starting to imagine the same characteristics in this baby. Against the doctor’s wishes, we had our first IUI.
Today I am 3 months post IUI and 3 months pregnant. We saw our little baby on the ultrasound today and it is healthy and looks so happy!!
I will never forget how to use The Secret again. And I really want to thank everyone for sharing their stories. And for those who are reading this that are in a similar situation that I was in, believe!