Remember To Remember!
I am a mid/high school teacher in a very small town in Wyoming. I first read The Secret when it was originally published and it reinforced many beliefs I already had regarding “getting what you think about”, but it presents the material in language that is meaningful for my everyday life. Over the years I have manifested many amazing things by paying attention to my thoughts and feelings and making certain that they were aligned with my hopes and dreams. I was a career changer. Having sold insurance for 10 years, I decided I wanted a life that was fulfilling in different ways. So I went back to school for my Master’s Degree in Education. Because of The Secret practices, I earned a scholarship to return to school, finished my program in record time, 1 year instead of 2.5. I was granted leave time from my insurance job rather than just losing my job to complete my “student teaching”. I was given my first teaching job the fall following my graduation. I met my wonderful husband using The Secret practices and have many made wonderful relationships amongst many more amazing manifestations.
The story I wanted to share today, however, is about remembering. Sometimes, it is easy to slip into the world of indifference regarding our intentions when things are going smoothly. My husband and I married late in life and began our family as older parents. Our son was born healthy and happy two years ago. We knew we wanted another child and wanted a couple of years between them, but we wanted to be pregnant with our next before my age drastically increased the risk of complications. That left us about a 1 year window to conceive our second child.
Some context first. Our first child was conceived in “one night”. We had no issues with fertility. Fast forward 18 months. We were ready to conceive baby number 2 so I centered my thoughts and my energy, visualized conception and “one time” was all it took before we were pregnant. Then I became indifferent, meaning I was focused on the stress in my life, the many changes and expectations at my work and my aging grandfather whose health was failing. I neglected to focus on the positive intentions of a healthy pregnancy. Two months later, I lost both my grandfather and the baby within a one week period. Remembering to be intentional after the miscarriage helped me to heal from both losses.
Fast forward again about 6 months. We were “trying” again, which was exactly my problem. I had forgotten to be intentional and “in the moment”. My thoughts had shifted to “I want to be pregnant” not “I AM pregnant”, “Once we are pregnant…” not “now that I am pregnant”, “Maybe today is the day we will conceive”, not “We just conceived a baby! There was no immediacy in my thoughts. I was intentional about conceiving some day in the future which would never get here. And so we continued to be not pregnant.
About 5 months into our “attempts”, we were going to visit my Grandmother, Aunt, Uncle and cousins, one of whom had been trying to conceive for several years. I bought her a copy of The Secret with the hopes that it would help her adjust her intentions towards conception. And as I was thinking “happy thoughts” for her, I realized I had forgotten to use those very principles in my own attempts to conceive!! I immediately changed my focus, my energy and my intentions. And two weeks later we were pregnant! Once you trust enough to use The Secret, remember The Secret!