How could I forget about The Secret!?

I have been working with The Secret for years but “forgot” to use the books for a couple of years. I found my future husband through The Secret. And now, 4 months before the wedding, my dad’s health got worse. He has been sick for 23 years now and every day is a gift. My mother always took care of him, but could no longer continue because he needed advanced care. He could no longer stand or walk and had no strength left in his legs. Due to a surgery my mother needed, he was placed in a care home, but only temporarily. It was only then that my mother realized that she could not cope anymore. Also, the doctors told her that he was a candidate for a care home for several years already. We knew he would not be able to come home again. The care home he was staying at was an hour drive away by bus and an additional 20 minute walk. My mother wanted to visit him every single day. As the commuting to the care home was too long, my brother and I stepped in of course.

It is heartbreaking when you see that they were being torn apart after 50 years of marriage. My mother’s wish was a good care home in her village. The only problem was the waiting list, it would take over one and a half years to get him a place there. But still, we were grateful that he had a temporary place, although it was far away.

At that time, I found my gratitude diary and pulled out my whiteboard to write down things I was grateful for. My upcoming wedding, the home we were renovating, the baby wish we had, a new job as I am moving up north. But I was still not including my father until my mother said “Can we use this for dad as well?”

Of course we can!! Why did we not think of that sooner?

The sentence was written down: I am happy and grateful that my dad has moved permanently to the care home before April 20th, 2018. The name and address of the care home were mentioned to be even more specific, together with the date. You never know if there is another care home with the same name somewhere else in the country. Every time my mother spoke about her worries of the placement and the waiting list in that specific care home, we would say out loud the sentence we wrote and really feel it.

After only 3 days we received a call that he had a place and we moved him last Friday!

All of a sudden 3 patients had moved to a different care home because of their mental health and dementia. And others on the waiting list were still not in need yet to require a care home.

We noticed immediately that this was the perfect place for both my parents. My dad is well taken care of and my mother is a 5 minute car drive away from him and can visit him whenever she wants. We are so grateful that this has happened.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.