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Submitted by: B C Byrne
IrelandI am married with two kids - one boy and a girl. We live in Ireland my homeland and my husband lives abroad, for the time being at least. We are hoping he will come and live in Ireland again soon. I love being a mother but would like to get back to work soon but is difficult in the present economic climate.
My husband and myself and our two beautiful children lived abroad in his home country for a few years. It took some time to adjust but we were all quite happy and getting on with our lives. However I became very unhappy living in a completely different culture. I had no real stimulation and felt my brain would turn to mush. My children also became unhappy and we really wanted to return to Ireland. My husband was busy trying to build a business and so couldn’t leave with us.
We have been back living in Ireland for a few months now and love it but we miss my husband and their father. He came to visit recently and all we did was argue and I could feel the resentment build up in me as he seemed unhappy and always wanted to go to the city to meet his friends. Even the kids felt it. Then, not even a week into his visit he got a call to say that his mother was very sick so he felt he needed to return to see her. We were upset for her but devastated that he had to leave us.
After he had gone it dawned on me that it was the law of attraction in action. I remembered how I felt since his arrival – resentful, angry and put out by his presence. I guess it takes time to adjust. Anyway the kids felt the same because they would complain to me. I remember thinking that I wish he’d just go back! The next thing you know he’s gone!