I married a beautiful girl, and we became parents of three wonderful children. After many years of focusing on the family and the kids, we completely lost ourselves. We gave too much and we forgot about us as individuals and as a couple. By our 13-14 year of marriage we had a lot of problems in our relationship. Trust was lost and this did not allow us to resume our healthy marriage. I realized that I was the one doing damage to our relationship, playing the victim over and over. I realized also that I loved her with all my heart and that she was my soul mate.
After a vicious cycle of hurting each other for so long, she put a hard stop to our relationship, and we separated.
She stayed on in our bedroom, which we’d redecorated just before the separation and I moved to an apartment. I kept a picture of us together. I created a picture of us going to Moscow for our 15 anniversary as we’d planned. I ASKED for our marriage to work, and I wore my wedding ring every day. I believed that our family would be together once again. I left her free to find herself while I did the same.
We remained friends, and I never stopped believing. Then, one day everything became clear. We realized that we love each other and that our family was once again among our priorities.
I trust her with my eyes closed once again and she does the same. We are a strong couple and satisfied individuals too. Today, Dec of 2009 we are taking our tour around Moscow as we planned. We are in love and our family is stronger than ever.