First I would like to say that there was something innate in me that always believed in The Secret before I even knew what it was. I was always afraid of thinking about something bad happening like cutting my finger or tripping because it would always happen!

My biggest stressor had been my perfect form. I grew up a chubby girl. Not quite fat or obese but plump. I really let myself go after high school but was able to slim down to my smallest size ever as 128 lbs. After some stressful years and a sedentary job my weight ballooned again. The worst part for me was the more I stressed and worried, the worse I got.

The more I ‘tried’ to use The Secret – the worse I got! I was at my heaviest of 172 lbs. I would try to be joyful and love my body and I would slim down a little bit and my pants would get looser but I wouldn’t fit into a smaller size. Two weeks after I first weighed myself I did it again and I was 190lbs! That’s not possible to gain that much in such a short time frame but I knew why it happened. Because I was worried, I was stressed and for whatever reason the number 1-9-0 kept popping in my head.

What really helped me was a story from a lovely lady from Sweden who said she never had full faith. Her story about her stress and heartburn made something click inside; I was trying to use The Secret too much. I was too dependent on it. When you’re supposed to be light and feel love…you’re supposed to feel that towards The Secret as well.

What worked for me was to take baby steps. I first focused on the numbers 1-4-0. I wrote 140 real big on a post-it that I stuck on my scale and ‘weighed’ myself every morning. I wouldn’t act shocked or excited; I would act happy and grateful when I saw what I wanted looking down. All my clothes sized 12-16 I got rid of. Every morning I would praise my body and how much I loved it, would intend to have a positive day. When I got dressed, even if I was wearing the size of pants I didn’t want to, I would make myself feel really confident and get myself psyched about “showing off my body” at work, acting as if I was really proud of it. Every night I would visualize putting on my size 10 pants in the morning and how good it would feel. Then I’d give thanks for everything in my life and my day.

I told myself working out was fun because it felt good to stretch and get my heart rate up and it was – but the moment I felt tired or didn’t like exercising I stopped, whether it was only 10 minutes in or after 30 minutes. I fully enjoyed everything I ate and I didn’t change my eating habits at all.

A week after doing this I was 140 lbs and fit comfortably into my size 10 jeans. I am so grateful I am at this point. I will comfortably stay this size for a couple weeks and then I will intend a size 8, and so forth.

Are you stuck wanting your perfect form? Maybe your problems are similar to what mine WERE. Start feeling sexy and attractive NOW. Put all your effort into visualizing for just a few minutes a day and then LET GO the rest of the day. Bless and give thanks for every good thing in your life. Laugh at the less than great moments that may happen. Enjoy your food, eat whatever you want and pay close attention to how much your body needs. Feel good when you exercise and stop when you don’t.

Most importantly…treat your perfect size as something nice that you’d like to have but wouldn’t kill yourself for. It will come running to you.