Love And Lists.
So the day has finally arrived when I am posting my success story on this site.
Before starting my story, I would like thank Rhonda Byrne for bringing The Secret to the world, the makers of this site, the wonderful people who post their successes and trials and errors with The Secret, Lina Shiny for making the videos of the magical journey of The Magic, and the Universe, which after all, conspires everything.
I had been searching for a true love, soul mate-type relationship all my life and when I read The Secret two years back in 2011, I actually started believing in it.
I made the list of the things you want in your Mr. Perfect. I did everything I was supposed to do, as per the book. I met a couple of boys who almost matched the list but nothing really happened with them. I was confused, but I still believed that Mr. Perfect is still out there, somewhere waiting for me as eagerly as I am waiting for him.
After a few crushes here and there, I realised that the problem with me was that I was going strictly by that “list”. Even though that list was not physically with me anymore, that idea of the ideal guy had become rigid in my mind. That was why I was always meeting the boys who matched that list, and each was like a clone of one another.
One day I totally removed “the list” from my mind. I decided that I am ready to love and the list can go to hell. Also, with time, my wants in the perfect guy had changed a great deal. I only focused all my energy to love as much as possible.
Whatever pleased my eyes I declared my love for it. Why should one love according to a list? Or why should one stop oneself from loving anything if it does not match to a list?
Without warning, my soul mate came into my life. He used to be my bench mate in 7th grade in 2006 in a small town of Akhnoor in Jammu and Kashmir where I spent only 8 months. He and I never used to talk that much as both of us were shy and reserved. In 2011 I added him on Facebook, but we hardly chatted. But just as I gave up on that list, he and I started talking more often and became really good friends. From Facebook we took it to Whatsapp, and from there, to Skype.
In just 30 days, he and I were inseparable. We discovered a deep connection. We had known each other for so many years, but little did we know that we were meant for each other.
And, I must add, all the things that he is, I could have never have summed it up in any damn list!
So, to all my dearest Secreters!
Don’t try to guess what to love or who to love, because when you just love with all your heart, you will know exactly why you love them.
Feel the love, it is in the air!