Letting Go Of Negativity.
I hope my story can inspire a lot of you. First and foremost, genuinely let go of all negativity, hurt, revenge, selfishness and greed. It may be difficult at first, but I promise you it’s perfectly possible.
I had a track record of dating the wrong men. Each time I would get dumped I started to hate men, and that’s all I received, the wrong men. Which then went on to having the wrong friends. Which then went onto me making the wrong decisions and eventually, hurting everyone around me unintentionally. I hit rock bottom and ended up depressed and in a mental health facility and eventually gaining a lot of weight.
My problem was that I had too many ‘wrong’ expectations. I compared myself to other women. I saw how “sexy” they were and in my head I needed to be as sexy as them. I wanted the most wealthiest, drop dead gorgeous men in my life and expected them to be as loyal to me as I was to them. If they let me go, my excuse was, “It was their fault. They were players. They wanted to cheat on me.”.
While in the facility, I learned to look at life in a more positive way. To let go of wrong expectations and to focus on myself. I practiced that on every level. I learned to forgive the ones that hurt me and I learned to forgive myself for allowing myself to be put in that situation. When I started to focus on my inner me, and just accepted people the way they were, life became more enlightening. I wanted to achieve more. I didn’t focus on my love life and I did eventually start dating men, again. Many let me go, but instead of being hurt, I started believing that someone was still waiting for me.
Finally, I met someone who was the complete opposite of what I wanted. He wasn’t very attractive. He wasn’t very wealthy. We had nothing in common. But when I talked to him, I realized what a wonderful person he was. This was through an arranged marriage proposal. I genuinely wanted to give him a chance. A week later, he and his family rejected me. My parents were confused but I laughed at that and told myself, “Things could have been worse. He is a nice guy and I hope that he finds what he’s looking for. I just went along with my life.
Shortly after, my parents forced me to join a dating site. Not thinking much of it, I just did it for the sake of my parents and decided to focus on my career. I clicked with one guy and we ended up talking for hours. Months later, he wanted to meet me. Mind you, I told myself it’s not worth looking at his picture but finally, I had to look at his picture, since he wanted to meet. I saw it. He was extremely attractive, but I still didn’t think much of it. I just figured I would meet him on friendly terms.
I met him. I had a wonderful time with him. He was the kindest man I had ever met and inside he was the most beautiful person I had ever come across. Six months later he proposed to me.
On my wedding day, the family that had deserted me actually came to my wedding. And on that day, I was asked by many family and friends if he had any single brothers because he was “drop dead gorgeous”.
When I moved in with him, I saw something in his closet. It was a vision board! He was an avid believer of The Secret. He had all the books on the law of attraction. I finally picked it up and read it. Everything I learned in therapy was what The Secret was all about!
We started off as a middle class couple. We worked hard together with a vision of having our dream home. Three years later, today, we are able to afford our dream home and are working on it. He had a promotion within 2 years of our marriage and is now working under the CEO at a major corporation. So my dream of having a wealthy, drop dead gorgeous man actually came true. Except in order to achieve it, I had to forget that was what I wanted and leave it to the Universe.