I stumbled upon The Secret recently after a break up sent me reeling. At first I thought “Great, a way to get my ex back!”. But, as time wore on, I was not able to truly invest in the practices, nor was I able to “feel good”. I just missed him too much.

So I decided to start small, like they suggest in the movie. How about an iced coffee? I visualized, felt the feelings, but it would not come. I realized I was worrying about the process: “Oh someone has to ask me if I want coffee” or “Oh I have to go into Starbucks and it’ll be offered to me”.

So, finally, I let it go and moved on to manifesting a necklace that I could use as a gratitude token. Again, I kept checking the mail thinking that was the way it would come. It didn’t. I moved on again.

How about a song? I picked Gravedigger by Dave Matthews, because who in their right mind would play such a morbid song in public? I’ve never heard it played outside of my music collection. I knew if I heard it out and about, it would be my manifestation. I was convinced I would hear it while shopping for a trip that was on the horizon. I didn’t. I let it go. Totally forgot about it.

I went on my trip, a beach vacation with my family who lives across the country. I did a lot of reading, meditating and generally was trying to let go of the man who left me. I had moments where I felt expansively happy and I forgot him completely. At dinner on the second night, my step mom put a box in front of me and told me it was my belated birthday present. It was the necklace.

I came back from my trip and my phone was on the fritz. I was 10 days shy of an upgrade, but decided to just go get a new one anyway. I talked to tech support at Sprint and they gave me a store address, but I decided to go to a different store in the opposite direction. I came out of Sprint with my new phone, and there was a truck parked right outside giving away free iced coffees.

I had reconnected with a different ex boyfriend just after my break up and he happened to be in town that weekend, so we grabbed dinner. During a lull in conversation, I could not believe my ears. The restaurant was playing Gravedigger, by Dave Matthews.

So this is what I now know: You must let it go!

I have not decided if I really want my ex back, but I know I stand no chance of getting him back unless I completely, utterly release the relationship.

That is how the law of attraction has worked for me. Make your request, believe it is possible to receive it, and then just release it to the Universe. It will come.

It will.