I’m in my mid/late twenties and was pretty much always single with the occasional two month relationship. I just couldn’t find what I wanted, it seemed like an impossible feat. I hated it and wanted nothing more than to find my person.

During a really hard breakup a little less than two years ago, I discovered the law of attraction via The Secret on Netflix, and quickly read The Power and The Magic.

I started experimenting with little things and then bigger things, like a dream job. Nailed it!! My perfect apartment. Yup!.

But I still could not find my man. I wrote a list of the things I wanted and sent surges of positive emotion through my thoughts for months, then I’d get hopeless and sad again, then I’d pick myself back up.

During this time, I began hanging out with an old friend that I never, ever considered as a potential mate. I talked to him about the law of attraction and he asked about some of the things on my list for a partner. I had to stop short because I got embarrassed when we both realized everything I had named described him spot-on.
He was pursuing me but I always pushed him away.

This past summer, we went on the trip of a lifetime together with some of his friends. We were both on top of the world the whole week, all our worries completely left behind. Totally high-vibin, which is when things really happen.

All the energy for years he had put with his thoughts into attracting me began to work. I realized that he and I are perfect for one another.

We started dating immediately, and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. It’s almost like I got put under some crazy universe spell and looking back I realize that the universe kept putting him in front of me over and over again until I finally got it. I also found out that my mother made his mother curtains 20 years ago that are still in her house because his parents happen to be best friends with my neighbors. Weird huh?

Advice? I did so many things I’m not even sure what worked but I know imagination is a very powerful tool. I think that driving is a good time to attempt to stir up the emotional whirlpool you need to set things in motion. So sometimes on my commute home from work, I would imagine that I was on my way to my hypothetical love’s house and try to feel super excited that I was about to see him. I also focused on appreciating hearing about the awesome relationship dynamics my friends had with their significant others rather than being jealous, using their stories as references to attract what I want.

Doing experiments that you’re not as invested in are a great reminder that the law of attraction is a real thing. And when you get to feeling desperate, remember that it might not be something you’re doing wrong. He or she might be tying up another part of their life to get ready for you.