He Really Did Come Back.
First off, I want to thank Rhonda for sharing The Secret, it has completely transformed my life!
I met this guy on a dating app and we had great chemistry. He was funny and made me laugh and it wasn’t long before we began to exchange phone numbers. From then on we began talking and texting one another and eventually, we went on a date. Everything seemed to be going wonderful after a couple of months of dating. My feelings for him began to grow and I realized I was falling in love with him. I didn’t want to tell him because I didn’t want things to move too fast. Eventually, he asked me if I did love him and I told him yes and that I did want us to become an official relationship, but I did not want to be hurt. He also confessed he wanted to be in a relationship, but didn’t want to be hurt either. Once we had that understanding we continued to date. However, things began to go slowly downhill.
Since I played things so safe with him to protect my feelings, he took it as me not really caring about him because he stated that I didn’t have any expectations. We began to argue until he finally said he needed time and space to think. The fear began to set in because I was so afraid of losing him and this actually pushed him away more and more. After months of trying to make things like they once were between us, and with all my fear of losing him, we had another argument. He decided he didn’t want to talk to me any longer. I was devastated because he said this through a text message and in a very rude and inconsiderate manner.
It only got worse. Three days later he ended up making a really mean song about me and I only found out because I went snooping on his social media. I cried so much and I was so hurt. I didn’t speak to him for a month until finally, I had to call and confront him, telling him that he really hurt my feelings. What was so hurtful about this was that he wasn’t even really sorry for being so mean and I really lowered my standards and my own self-respect for continuing to be on speaking terms with him. That was one of the worse things I ever did. Even though we didn’t argue, I was initiated every conversation and he acted so uninterested.
After a couple of months of this, I was beginning to get fed up. During all that time my insecurities and fears were very present and I kept thinking that he would find someone else or end up dating the girl he claimed he was over before he met me. And then it got worse. A couple of months later, that’s exactly what happened! All of my worst fears came true. I was so angry and felt so betrayed because it was like he never gave me a chance! I would post stuff on my stories on social media just for him to see and hope it would bring him back, but it didn’t. It seemed like the more I tried the more he became engulfed in his relationship! Eventually, he unfriended me, and his new girlfriend also blocked me!
My heart began to sink. A few months later, I would still snoop and see if they were still together and they still were. That’s when I finally reached the last straw, not only were they still together, he posted an ultrasound. He was having a baby with her!
Once again, I was alone, angry, and heartbroken. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. The next month I had to really think because, at that point, it had been a whole year obsessing over someone who clearly did not want me and moved on like I meant nothing to him. I decided that enough was enough.
I began watching The Secret and reading The Power. I decided it was time for me to move on and to focus on loving myself, something I hadn’t done in the past. I started slow, but I cut off all communication with him. I went and blocked him on social media so I wouldn’t be tempted to snoop. I said to myself, “He’s going to apologize to me for what he did, and so it shall be.” That was the beginning of the healing process and that was when I slowly started to let him go.
I started focusing more on me. I decided to get back into school. I started working towards becoming an entrepreneur and I wanted to lose some weight. Was that guy still in my thoughts? Yes, but it wasn’t as crippling as it was before. I started practicing gratitude and started learning the art of letting go to get the things I wanted in life.
In about 7 months, I had obtained my bachelor’s degree, I lost weight, I was successful in affiliate marketing and I was making some money by doing it, and, I met someone new!
This new man was amazing! He just kind of came out of nowhere. According to the teachings of Rhonda, self-love is something that is very important and I really was in love with myself. I really cared for this new guy and everything seemed right. I felt certain we were a good match and had no fears or insecurities. We decided we loved and cared for each other and became an official couple. I was so happy.
Then something out of the blue happened.
One night I was watching some TV and my phone vibrated. I was thinking it was my boyfriend so I looked down and it was an unfamiliar number. It was like 9 pm at night, so I figured the odds of it being a telemarketer were pretty low. I answered, and an old familiar voice was on the other end. It was the guy who broke my heart nearly two years ago. I was so confused because I had completely forgotten all about him and let him go a long time ago.
He basically called me to apologize for what he did and how he regretted hurting me so badly. He told me things did not work out with his girlfriend, and the baby ended up not being his. I was speechless! I never thought I would ever hear from him again, and I chose to take the high road. Instead of downing him like he did me when I was at a low point in my life, I told him I forgave him. He then proceeded to ask if there was any chance we could try to work things out. I really loved this guy at one point, but he broke my heart and I had to go through a lot of pain and healing to get to be the amazing person I was now. So I firmly, but respectfully told him I couldn’t do that and that I was in a relationship with someone that I really loved. I could hear the hurt in his voice when I told him, but he said he understood. He apologized again and I told him again all was forgiven. I got off the phone with him and realized I made the right choice.
So yes, they do come back. No matter how bad the situation is, but this only happened because I had let go and learned to love myself. Had I not came across The Secret, I probably would have spent another year thinking about someone who wasn’t thinking about me. Thank God my life got on track and God bless all of those who are in similar situations.