Finding Friendship Again
About 13-14 years ago I had a huge falling out with my best friend. I could give you all sorts of reasons for why it happened, but it basically came down to this: I chose not to have a difficult conversation to tell her how I was feeling. Eventually those feelings grew into resentment then anger. You get the idea. It was a hard lesson in being honest.
Interestingly enough, the very reason I didn’t want to have the hard conversation was because I was afraid of losing my friend and that’s exactly what happened.
Over the years I had thought about my friend often and regretted the loss of her friendship, but did not know how to reach her as I had found no listing for her in Michigan, the last place I knew she moved to.
Fast forward to November 2012. I decided that I wanted to draw more meaningful friendships back into my life and my old friend was the “model” for that. She and I used to share our spiritual growth and spur each other forward and I really missed that. I set my intention and loved it and let it go.
About 2 weeks later I was inspired to search for her on the Internet. It took about 25 minutes but I finally came across an Etsy email account that I thought might be hers, so I sent an email explaining who I was looking for and why and apologizing if this was not that person.
A few days later I had an email back from her, surprised yet pleased to hear from me. Turned out she had moved back to Wisconsin to help her ailing parents out and was less than an hour away! She too missed having a friend close by to share with on a spiritual level.
Since then it’s as if no time had passed and I can honestly say our friendship is better than ever. Of course I apologized to her for my blow up and she forgave me, but I don’t think I would have reconnected with her had I not already forgiven myself. Much has changed in each of our lives since we had last talked to each other, yet somehow we are still the same in so many ways!
Thanks you, thank you thank you!