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Submitted by: nastassia
flint, michiganSeparated mother of 3, business woman and student.
I had been separated for several months and started dating.
After several dates I finally met the one who really rocked my world. In my desperation to keep him, I would fear losing him and that would cause me to treat him badly sometimes and behave in such ways to get extra attention from him. But in hindsight, I can see now that it had a detrimental effect.
One evening I was angry because I thought he was ignoring me and I lied to him to hurt his feelings and “get back” at him.
And that did it! He told me to have a good life and stopped communicating with me.
I was devastated! In hindsight, I think he stuck around longer than any other man would have, given my behavior. I was suffering his loss so badly and hating myself for my stupid behavior. I ruined one of the best relationships I had ever had.
I started envisioning him getting in touch with me again and imagining that he really missed me. I imagined him with another girl, which I suspected he was, but had the feeling that she just didn’t do for him, what I did for him. I imagined him trying to find the feelings with her that he had with me, but couldn’t.
I imagined that he started to yearn for me again and starting to slowly forgive me. I imagined him feeling and remembering all the good times we had together.
I started to feel the way he would make me feel when I was around him. I only did this when I was feeling very happy. I had bad days of course, but allowed myself to have them and just picked myself up the next day.
To my surprise and delight, weeks later, I found a message from him on my computer asking to see me to get some of his stuff back. But I knew that wasn’t the real reason.
We started communicating regularly again and picked up our relationship where we left off and it is better than ever now. I no longer take him for granted and behave badly. I appreciate him and he really turns my crank. I think about him all day, every day and can’t wait to see him every single day!
Thank you for The Secret!!