Falling In Love Again
Thank you all for your letters that are written in this forum, they are so inspiring! I come here when I need to be uplifted and set back on the right track again in my thinking. And also, of course, thank you to Rhonda and her staff for her books and the movie The Secret and for maintaining this website for us.
I have felt myself to be slow in learning the practices and principles of gratitude as taught in The Magic, but I do learn more all the time and this is what happened this month, in September.
At the beginning of the month I decided that the one major problem in my life was my attitude toward the man with whom I have lived for ten years. While knowing that I deeply love him, I have also felt many resentments toward him and my negative thoughts, my critical, negative thoughts about him were awful for me to live with. And of course he felt my resentments which was awful for him, too. I could not feel happy and I also knew I wasn’t being fair to him.
Frankly, he’s loud and impatient and yells a lot when he’s under stress about something and is hard to live with sometimes, very hard. But I decided that in September I would work very hard at thinking only positive things about him and to write down everything about him that I love.
All through the month I have corrected my thoughts when a negative, critical one would pop into my mind, and I’ve made a conscious effort to change my thinking to positive thoughts.
Now for the miracle: We are falling in love with each other again, the way it was when we first fell in love ten years ago!
I see him as goodhearted, just a little loud sometimes, affectionate, funny, and sweet. And he’s not yelling nearly as much at all!! In fact, a couple of times he’s even corrected ME, saying, “You don’t have to talk so loud!” when I’ve been excited or impatient about something.
GRATITUDE works and these principles that we learn in The Secret and The Magic are truly spiritual practices that are helping me to become a better person with much more love in my heart. My resentments have slipped away and I know that if I start thinking the way I did a month ago, I’ll know now how to correct my thinking to change it to gratitude and appreciation which is a much more happier and fair way to live with somebody than feeling angry and resentful.
When I write my daily gratitude list now, I write something nice about him for which I am grateful. I know he feels much more loved now and that is good, that is just what he needed to have happen!
I even picked some flowers for him the other day and put them beside his chair in the living room and he said, “Is it okay for a man to get flowers?!” and I said, “Sure it is!” and he said, “Well, okay, but just don’t tell anybody!” LOL. But I could tell how pleased he felt and it was fun. I’m going to pick more flowers for him!