I was a kind of demure natured girl and I often had great difficulty with what was going on in my heart. I got into a relationship with a guy who was just like I had imagined my dream guy to be like. But soon I started to give in to my insecurities and I was thinking negative thoughts about the relationship all day. I did not realize that doing so could manifest my thoughts into reality.

A month later I got to know that he was already in a relationship with another girl! I was broken hearted as hell. My boyfriend refused to break up with either one of us and pleaded with me to stay in the relationship. I was thinking it was pure love so I stayed but I was going against my own self-love. Then things started to go downhill and got worse. I was getting insulted and feeling humiliated but I refused to call off the relationship. I was so much in love with him that I forgot about my own self love and self respect.

Then one day when I got insulted by his girlfriend, I felt that I had enough and me and my boyfriend decided to call our relationship off. That was so difficult for me, and a month later I had started to beg him to come back to me.

That was when my friend told me about The Secret book. I read it and related every one of my situations with what my previous thoughts had been. I wanted to let him go but I was so into him that I would still think of him every single day. I started to date several other guys to forget about him but nothing happened. That was when I decided that I would give The Secret a try.

I made gratitude my way of life and I focused on giving my ex gratitude for being with me and loving me. On days that I could not find anything to feel grateful for about him, I would just feel gratitude for what I wanted him to be. I would do this whenever I would start to think about our breakup. When I would remember him, I would just say that I loved him. Looking at his pictures and talking to him as I looked into his eyes was my favorite part of the day. I would feel like I was actually talking to him. Days passed by and nothing happened as I was obviously struggling to let go.

Then I started to date a guy who was very nice and I started having emotions for him. I still wanted my ex to come back but this time I was not feeling desperate.

And guess what?!

My ex called me, begging me to forgive him! He told me that not a single day had gone by that he didn’t think of me and that he was a changed man now. He said that he was doing everything that I had wanted him to do and he committed to me. I finally got a commitment after 2 years of being in the relationship, only when I realized my own self worth. He also started recognizing and respecting my place in his life.

However, the sad part is that I no longer want to be with him. My new guy is a person that I really want to be with. My ex is now asking me to come back and is crying for me but now I will never settle for anything less than I deserve.

If I can do it, you can definitely do it too.