Distressed In Love.
I want to start by thanking Rhonda for bringing to us the wonderful knowledge of The Secret and for providing a platform where we can learn from others experiences and even share some of our own.
Love is a wonderful feeling, but when you don’t get it reciprocated or are not happy with the person, it can cause you a lot of distress. My story has two such incidences. One, when I was just in college I befriended a guy who happen to have fallen in love with me. As always, it started with a friendship. We were good friends but then he started to become very possessive of me. So much so, that he did not like me meeting some friends or even talking to them. He wanted all of my time. We were not in any relationship so it was not something I expected. And then he said he loved me. Unfortunately I couldn’t reciprocate those feelings and that didn’t go very well with him. His friendship made me feel suffocated. I wanted to stop this as it was affecting me. We did not part ways amicably. He was so forceful that he even said ‘That no matter what, I will ensure you marry me’. It was disturbing as I was then scared of him. I could not lead a normal life for the next few days and I started to be reclusive. Thankfully my sister helped me out and pushed me to go on with my life. At that time, all I thought was ‘I wish he finds someone better than me so that he never remembers me’ and to this day he has not ever bothered me. I am so thankful to the Lord.
Then some few years later I fell in love with a guy. I was very serious about him and wanted to settle with him. But unfortunately he came from a conservative family who wouldn’t accept me and he wasn’t willing to go against his family. I was devastated. I cried and cried till the tears dried. I knew there is no hope but still somewhere in the corner of my heart I wanted him to come back. That never happened. But thankfully I never got bitter. All I would think of was the beautiful memories we had together. I would always just bless him wherever he was.
With these two experiences behind me, I at least knew what I did not want in a guy. I did not want a guy that was overly possessive and I did not one that would not stand up for me.
It took me two years or more to forget him. And the main reason I was able to get over him was another guy, who is now my husband. He came into my life at the perfect time. He told me either you chase your dream and reach them or just be happy where you are. I realised I cannot force anyone to love me and if someone could not stand up for me then he didn’t love me enough. I was healed.
This was when I began the most beautiful chapter of my life, love. We eventually got married and we have a beautiful son together. And guess what? He gives me my space, is respectful of my time, has stood up for me in front of his conservative family, ensured I am happily accepted by the family and he loves me unconditionally.
All I want to say is to never get bitter with people. Always bless them, as curses and blessings are both returned multiplied. Decide what you want to receive.
I learned all of this thanks to the wonderful knowledge of the law of attraction. Thank you, thank you, thank you. May you all find the love you deserve.