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Changing my Life
Submitted by: Christina W
Auburn, ALI'm originally from Georgia and moved to Alabama almost two years ago. I began reading positive thinking books and law of attraction books about three months ago after a divorce.
My husband and I divorced in February. I did not want the divorce, but as papers were signed and he moved out everything became more real. After about a month of tears and heartache, I began reading positive books to help my mindset. One of them was The Secret. I also watched The Secret DVD on Netflix.
Using the tools in the books I began to learn about myself and accepted my own part in the divorce as well as relationships in general. I took responsibility for my actions and I apologized to my ex-husband. I also reached out to my biological family as well as my church family. They had been very supportive of me and I began to support them instead. Using the tools in The Secret I was able to not just think about what I wanted but use those skills to help others around me.
My ex noticed the changes in me and we began to talk again. We would go places together with our son and as time went on began actually dating again. Using the methods taught in The Secret, I expressed to the Universe the changes I wanted him to make. Nothing changed overnight, but as time went on he also began to change. I told him about the books I read and he started to read them too. Now we both have index cards with quotes and scripture on the walls and we discuss what we’ve read in the books. We found out that we do want the same things out of life and we had been taking each other for granted. We had let our own selfishness get in the way of our relationship.
Things began to progress even more and he asked if he could come back home when his lease was up. Then he made a comment about wedding rings. I knew I wanted to get married again, but I also knew I wanted things to be different. Not just for me, but for both of us. He was still making the changes I had expressed, some to him verbally and some just out into the Universe, and it was so strange to actually SEE the changes take place.
A few weeks ago he told me he had a present for me. I really wanted it to be an engagement ring. When we married before I was 18 and he was 19. We had very little money and I never had an engagement ring. Our wedding bands hadn’t even cost very much. I started to visualize this ring – silver with a diamond in the center. Nothing flashy, nothing fancy. I have a white board on the wall in my bedroom where I write down some of the most important things I ask for. I wrote on the board “silver engagement ring” and visualized it in my head, almost right up to the moment he came over. I erased it before he got there, hoping that the present was indeed a ring.
And yes, it was, and it was more beautiful than the ring I had pictured in my head. It’s silver with an oval diamond in the center and smaller diamonds around it and three on either side going down the band. I started to cry, and told him how much I’d hoped it would be a ring and how I’d erased it off my board. I wear it everyday and I hate to take it off. It’s a reminder to me every day that this does work and I can truly have everything I’ve ever wanted.
He’s in the process of moving back to our home now and we will be remarried next April, one year after our divorce was finalized.